Ok so I've been gaming on facebook lately. My sarging has kind of hit a wall. I've been sending out bulk messages (maybe 20 at a time.) of "are you shy or something" and I'm getting around a 70% reply rate. Of that about 95% of the replies are along the lines of:

Sorry, do I know you?
Who are you?
How do I know you?
I don't know who you are.
Who is this?
No seriously... who are you and how are we friends? Did we work together or something? I have no idea.

So my question is, what's the best way to handle these with a good frame? I've tried something like

I'm that guy you made out with at that party last weekend. I guess you were too drunk to remember

So far its a 0% reply rate to that one.. lol
Help?

Thanks guys,

~Bennjimin

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i can try to help you understand why that opening will probably never work on facebook.

it leaves them emotionless it isnt controversial enough. it works great in the bars (from experience, and i add "cause ive been standing here for 5 minutes and you havent said hi") that works because it is unexpected, online it just doesnt make too much sense. i would use the poke method on facebook, it seems to work ok, but i like myspace better for online sarging.

try using the myspace wig opener (works like gold for me) the ugly chicks (i dont always look past the avatar pic till we start talking, usually get pissed off and dont talk to you anyway, but the hb8+s eat it up. especially when you use the method as close as you can to trivials version of it.

Here is an example of a little improvision but mostly his game plan.


----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: ..Just another Mike..
Date: May 20, 2008 10:05 PM


are you wearing a wig?


----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: HB8
Date: May 21, 2008 6:49 AM


nope



----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: ..Just another Mike..
Date: May 21, 2008 6:59 AM



you are a very descriptive person, are all your answers so long?




----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: HB8
Date: May 21, 2008 10:02 AM


You asked me if I was wearing a wig... I said Nope. What am I suppose to say to that? No im not... I have hair. why do you ask?...





----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: ..Just another Mike..
Date: May 21, 2008 7:14 AM


lol, i wasnt expecting to laugh when i opened this message. no i think your hair looks really nice, thats why i was wondering.

While I have your attention, I need a females prespective on something......Say, this guy is dating this girl, and she goes out with her friends, has a few drinks and ends of making out with a random guy at the bar.....Would you consider this cheating?

Mike



----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: HB8
Date: May 21, 2008 10:20 AM


Absolutly! She put her lips on another mans lips! Hell yeah thats cheating! DUmp her ass! Let me guess she blamed it on her being drunk.. If she can do that she'll do anything.



----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: ..Just another Mike..
Date: May 21, 2008 7:27 AM


Interesting.....okay, let me ask you this......Take the same scenario, but this time the girl is making out with another girl, and lets say she does this almost every time she goes out.....would you consider that cheating?


Mike



----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: HB8
Date: May 21, 2008 10:31 AM


Everyone has their own opinion and depending how you feel about it should let you know if it was wrong or right.. My opinion is It doesnt matter If its male, female, or other... Your lips belong on the only person your are committed to.. that goes along with your eyes and hands and brain. If your looking at someone else or thinking about someone else you might as well cheat cause sooner or later you will cause obveously your not happy and still looking for something better... Call me crazy but thats my thought.. And I must say you are a very interesting person! Ive never had a complete stranger ask my opinion on this and start it all with asking me if I wear a wig!



----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: ..Just another Mike..
Date: May 21, 2008 7:38 AM


You havent???!!!

Come on, you must be joshin me?


This is a situation that my friend Chris is in. he has been dating this girl for about 6 mos and he really likes her. and then she tells him that she makes out with girls all the time. he's not really sure how he feels about it. on one hand, he thinks its hot, but on the other, he fears that he can't satisfy her and that they will never get more serious. my opinion, I think she should have been more upfront with him from the beginning. i'm big on honesty. if you establish the relationship as casual then its fine.
I like your take on things. I have to get some work done, but we should talk some more.

do you have IM?

let me get your aim screenname. I promise I'll only send you creepy inappropriate messages 9 times per day


Mike





So she sends me her aim and we talk for a bit and i get off, notice how she came right out and said how interesting i was, and i was mostly copying and pasting with minor changes here and there, throw in your own stuff in between , and take little things from here or there, like asking her if she was always so descriptive came from trivials post in his own thread.

online gaming is so easy cause you can really think about your reply, being playfully mean works really well (negging) but it has to come off like it could be so many different things, let me show you another example where this came into play. This is classic too. Young HB9




----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: ..Just another Mike..
Date: May 20, 2008 4:08 PM


Are you wearing a wig?



----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: HB9
Date: May 20, 2008 5:10 PM


umm no what are you talking about?




----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: ..Just another Mike..
Date: May 20, 2008 4:22 PM


i was just wondering.

are you always this rude when you talk to people?




----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: HB9
Date: May 20, 2008 5:25 PM


lol sorry i thought it was kinda rude to ask that..

but its ok..idc

sorry if i seemed rude



----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: ..Just another Mike..
Date: May 20, 2008 4:38 PM


well it looks nice.

While I have your attention I could use a females opinion.

This guy is dating this girl, and she goes out with her friends, has a few drinks and ends of making out with a random guy at the bar.....Would you consider this cheating?


Mike




----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: HB9
Date: May 20, 2008 5:53 PM


this might sound a lil rude lol but if ya bangin her then ya i consider that cheating





OK so this chick went from put off to appoligizing to me just because i accused her (wrongfully) of being rude when i asked the rude questions, it just goes to show how well this shit works on the hotter girls

on this one i took negging a little farther because her answer was a little bitchy and i wanted to put her in her place, i didnt think she would start appologizing but it was nice, and i rewarded her for it with a very subtle comment, then moved on.

Wow this is gold thanks! - I will post my own success rates here too

I say

Hey, you looked pokeable. I want to know... are you as interesting as you look?

Hey new to the forum. I believed his question wasn t answered cause i am curious to find out what to say when a girl goes who are you? etc. It might happen even with good openers .. they always want to like know you to a certain degree before continueing the conversation. Help with smooth answere at this area would be much appreciated. Thanks!

be honest, it's myspace clearly they can check you out anyway. when they ask "who are you?" or "do i know you" or one of the many variations. i often just introduce myself tell them they haven't met me yet but i was browsiing and came across your page. than you find something on her page to kinda make a neg. "like so i was on your page and i must say this xxxxxx kinda threw me off, you gotta explain this one." And just kinda flow from there. with the script from above. and if her profile is private you can even use that as a neg.

Dude keep up the good work!

AWESOME!

your using the windowshoppinforwomen.com Opener! lol

That is a great opener, how ever before you use it, be sure to add the application BIG PHOTO to your facebook, so you can make your profile a little more customizable.. you can add a number of pictures into the face of your profile which will DHV you quite a bit and make your response rate be very consistent and generate better responses!


Ok, how to respond to DO I KNOW YOU?


REally what does she mean when she asks this.. If she didnt care to speak to you she could have just skipped your question... really she is acknowledging you and extending an opportunity for you to catch her attention..


You have to remember your openers only goal is to get a response... you got the response ... great.. now transition that into several threads and be playful


Dont every take it personally, she has no idea who the hell you are.. so it is a valid question... just remember to respond playfully

hope that helps..


kelly
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