Hey guys,

I have a feeling (I don't know for sure) that some people may have been saying things behind my back to a particular girl (a bit like using a bf destroyer on her to remove me from the game).

Question is should I ask her if people have been saying things -will this make me look insecure?

Or should I just go in and DHV and build more attraction would that be the key?

What would you guys reccomend?

Are you actually her boyfriend?

The reason boyfriend destroyers work is that they prey on the things she's missing from the relationship, making her focus on them, and then you demonstrate that she would have those things with you. If you are her boyfriend and someone is running this tactics you just need to make sure she is happy with everything.

Personally, despite sounding a little AFC, I'd sit down and talk to her. It's alright to be a little needy in a relationship, and just ask her if she's happy. Be clear that you aren't going to "change" for her but if she wants little things like, "It would be sweet if you would take me out to dinner" then you can do that no problem.

Now if you aren't dating her and you are just running game then I would recommend DHV'ing and building attraction as you suggested. Try to find out what's being said so you know exactly what you have to do to counter it. Also, why would someone be doing this to you? Are they friends of yours? You need to get to the root of the problem.

Lastly, I feel I should add that if you are actively gaming this girl still you are well outside the 4-10 hour mark. Are you sure you aren't already locked into the LJBF zone? It may be time to pass on this one, and maybe revisit it after you have some more preselection.

Good luck!

Instil in urself a belief that u simply release the need to care what others think about you, you must do this if you want to achieve greater success as it radiates complete self confidence and security

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Wow -excellent advice guys. Its made me think over things more. I'm not her bf SPAM and they were friends of mine who (may or may not) have been saying things to her.

I think you're right tho Dr^ZigMan, I do need to turn things sexual -I think she already thinks I'm preselected but shes just not thinking of me in a sexual way. I don't know if I'm in the LJBF's zone yet (its not looking good tho) I think I might do what you said and revisit it later.

Thanks for the advice tho guys.