Well, this is my first post…I’ll try to make it organized. This board doesn’t get many replies, but this is the only place I can post right now, so here it is.

I need some help.

I’m looking for:
Tips
Techniques
Methods
Books to buy
Posts to read
Articles to study
Etc. etc. etc.

My Situation:
I’m 16 years old, and a freshman in high school (for about 2 more weeks) on the west coast.
Then comes summer, and with that, many social opportunities.

I read The Game last year, and that is how I became aware of this entire culture (picking up girls as a hobby, etc.)

I’m known in school as the nice, funny guy. I’m friends with boys and girls, measuring all over the popularity scale, but I myself am not considered a “cool guy.” I’m not really athletic or big, and my self-esteem is not the greatest. I’m mostly shy. Sometimes…just sometimes, I really am myself, and have 0 problems. But for the most part, I’m just a shy guy…uncomfortable in social situations.

This is strange for me, I think, because I never was shy previous to middle school and high school, when social interactions weren’t a main focus. When I was younger and went on a plane, I would go to every seat in the plane and introduce myself…but this was when I was about 6 years old. Now, I think I just overanalyze and subconsciously put my mind in a poor state to be friendly, open and confident.

My Problems:
I basically said everything above, but I’ll restate it in a more simplified way.
I’m shy.
Don’t really have any good noticeable “pick-up” qualities to make me appealing, ie. I’m no star of the basketball team.
My confidence is often lacking.
It’s difficult to look many people in the eyes.
I hate being called on in class, or reading anything out loud in class, to the point I’ll skip the class, if I know it’ll happen.
I’m no Mr. Smooth
I don’t see myself as a physically attractive person…although I’ve been told differently.
I’m uncomfortable with myself and essentially, who I am, in many respects.

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So basically, I just need some help correcting all of this. I know a little of NLP, and I’ve read about all of this stuff, but it is all so complicated. I don’t really need information on picking up girls in bars yet. I just need some help becoming that Mr. Smooth.

Can anyone help?

hey buddy
1- shyness meh, we all were at one stage ull learn to cover/remove it
2-pick up traits ull learn
3- same as one ull get some with the knowledge and success u get
4-watevs- ull learn. physical is not everything. watch this http://au.youtube.com/watch?v=9DYn4-h3C ... ed&search=

as for material books and such read this guide and go to each one that relates to u (i suggest the acronyms, good books, and AA)

faq-everyone-read-this-first-gtcommon-n ... t3857.html

good luck man

Hey thats some good stuff there. I'll check that stuff out. This site is really good...I think just by reading the good stuff here, I'll learn.

I'm not sure what you have read but I can recommend the mystery method as a starting point then branch out from there. Welcome to the forums and good luck!

I wish I knew about this community when I was 16..

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Blakez

Yeah, thats the thing. I know I'm young so if I get some good advice now and get on the right track, I'll be pretty good at this by the time I get to college.

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16 years old and looking for help.