Hey.

There’s an HB9 or better, who works nearby me. She literally gets two or three guys asking for her number, evey day, (and I’ve witnessed this myself). She’s always liked me, I’ve known this for ceetain (trust me, there’s no question about it). Perhaps, primarily, because I’ve always been friendly with her, without hitting on her, but when I want o, I act like I know she wants me. So she tells me to take a picture of her, instead I resume to take the typical boyfriend/girlfried photo, her kinda kissing me, etc. Ayhow, after weeks of on and off flirting, she basically asks me out lastnight. “So when are you taking me to dinner? I respond, slightly amusedly, somewhat businesslike, “Tomorrow night, Georgetown, café *****, 9PM.” She doesn’t know what to say. Then I start talking about mothers day, and she starts fucking with me, which I didn’t know she was fucking wih me, pretending she doent have a mom. So then she breaks down in tears, making me feel very awkward. I end up leaving, and dnext day I come in there, say hello, and now she is suddenlyh being kinda cold to me. She ignores me at first, and then she talks to her friewnd, then she says hello to me, I say hello, then I say sorry for making her cry, then she tells me she was fucking with me, and I feel like an idiot, but don’t show it. Then she resumes talking to her friend, and sicne then (2 days) I haen
‘ts aid anything to her. I have to walk past her several times every day, whenever ‘m going to a break, or from it, so it’s not like I can totally ignore her. What’s the appropriate level for me? She’s suddenly playing really hard to get. Should I totally ignore her. Should I go in there and ask when is her break and pull aninsta date…. What’s the right level? She’s extremely confident, fairly nice, very spirited, brunette.HB9 or better.

She also often tells me she’ll visit me, but ends up never doing it. All in all, she’s hard to game, because she’s extremely flirtatious, but also playing very hard to get, in some respects. Any advice?

You fucked up.
It sounds to me like she ran a bunch of shit tests on you, and you completely failed. You did everything she wanted you to do, destroying your social value and respect.

HB"So when are you taking me to dinner?"
YOU:"I think you should take me out to dinner" (laugh).

you should have given yourself the social value to resume that attraction.

As for the mother's day thing, another SHIT TEST.
I don't really understand what you did while she was crying, I understand what she wanted you to do (emotionally support her), but to me it sounds really fucked up.
I would have called her out for it after she said I was just messing with you. "Don't toy with my emotions. I will absolutely not tolerate it. Until you apologize you will never hear from me again".

Something like that.

But this even boggles my mind. What a twat.

There is still a chance...

The next time you saw her

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the Mom thing... She leaned in, hiding in the shoulder of a female friend. There was no way she could hear anything I'd say to her. So I stood around for a few seconds, and when I could see there was nothing I could do, I left. I was already on my way out.

she's extremely flirtatious, therefore she might have given u the impression that she always liked you.

No, she’s normally not a fliratious person\ at all. When guys hit on her, she tells them she has a boyfriend in like 10 seconds. In fact she wars a wedding band and claims she;s married. I’ve had her stand with me, with her drinking to ‘Our great looks’, telling a guy she has a boyfriend, then hitting opn me. She gives me every IOI in the book, , there’s not a chance she doesn’t like me. She intiates kino, gives me direct compliments, looks ay my lips, asks if I want to marry her, blbla. She definitely likes me. A lot. Not a question bout it.

That being the case, and knowing that she had high confidence, and kn owing that I have a reputation of somewhat of a player, I didn’t respond uch to her IOIs, other than occasionally ‘pushing her around’, and the odd compliment. Finally, after several weeks, of me playing hard to et, I ‘gave in’ when she asked me out, and suddeny I ended up giving out way too many DLVs at the same time.


Best thing to do would be to give her a lot ofnegs next time I meet her. Give as many DHVs as possible (The Cube maybe), and then get her number as soon as I can. Would that be the right thing to do?

Ty for your advice, guys, tw. Sorry for the bad spelling, I’m writing from an iphone.

In the meantime, should I ignore her when I inevitably walk by, wave to her. Should I walk up to her next time. Should I not look at her at all? Anyone have any advice?

Don't ignore her. But don't initiate anything and tell her you cant stay around long if she decides to chitchat with you. Create time constraints a few times.

be cockyfunny, and just demonstrate social value. if she comes around then awesome.

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