at work there are two girls, really good luking one=lucy, and really ugly one= tash. an the guys no the ugly one likes me an say stuff like 'wheres ya g/f' etc. i sed to one of them that i wudnt touch tash with a pole and they sed wat about lucy, wud you go out with her? (lucy was iin the room listerning.
i sed im not sure i dont no her that well, was that the ryt thing tosay??? bearing mind i had talked to her a couple of times an things were going ok, not good but ok. but yeh generally i wud go out with her, but what i sed, was it ryt???????????????????

You must remember that beautiful women know they are beautiful and unattractive women know they are unattractive. If you do not know Tash but said you would not touch her with a ten foot poll but would like to get to know Lucy first you are implying a certain degree of shallowness. Attractive women are always curious about men who don't respond to their beauty in a typical manner - did lucy give you a rather neutral and curious stare while you were talking where her eyes were just focused on you as if she was waiting to hear what you had to say?

Girls do not percieve situations the same way men do - they are used to guys slandering the ugly girl in favor of them but they will respect you far more if you can treat everyone equally. You should not slander ugly girls around pretty ones if you want to appear attractive - a true alpha male respects all people equally.

You should not feel a need to try to prove other guys wrong when they say "where's ya girlfriend". All you are doing by acting this way is qualifying yourself to other males and giving them alpha status. You need to be unaffected by other people's opinions or comments.

- Chris

Yeah, don't bash Tash. That's not cool at all. You're just pandering to what some asshole guys think of you, and in turn makes you an asshole yourself. It's also a major DLV and the other girl probably thinks you're a dick if she heard you. Think of status as something that can only be pulled; never pushed. You can pull people up to be with you if you are a high status or pull them down if you are low. Only low status people bash others and only high status people are capable of building other people up.

When the guys tease you about the not-hot girl, defend her "hey guys, Tash is a really nice girl... stop it."

As for the better looking one... I don't know, it depends. If she took it as genuine disinterest and she's a high status woman then she's not going to waste her time thinking about you. If you are interested then talk to her and make it clear that you like her.

fair enuf, i do agree, she had her back to me so i cudnt see her reaction, be she seems normal with me. what if i didnt bash tash and they asked me if i wud get with lucy? what wud be the best thing to say then? i no whats done is done but i trying to re picture the scenario

amog buddy, they're trying to put you down by asking that. Turn it around on the guy who asked u that, or just be cocky. To the do you like tash question say something like, "no thanks, i cant take your sloppy seconds, if u think thats to mean say something like "what do you think..." Just don't be mean to the girl, i bet shes a good person, and shes probably your key to getting lucy. If she were to find out about the things you said about her, your chances for getting any girl at the place would be screwed.

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Yeah you kind of defeated yourself there. I mean saying you would have to get to know the HB first was smart, but by being mean to Tash without knowing her. You kind of made yourself look like a liar.

how can you sarge a woman if you can't even sarge a man.