im dating this girl shes really great and we both like eachother a lot.

the problem is shes not a virgin and i am but she thinks im not because i told her so.

weve been seeing eachother for other a month, and idk if i should tell her now I mean we like eachother a lot and I don’t think it would end it if I told her but I have been lieing about it for a while and its come up for then once… I just want it to be special for ME and her and I don’t want to be riddled with fear over having to perform when all I really want is to just enjoy it.

what do you think

If she trusts you, she will understand. If the relationship isn't very deep, it'll be a problem if tell her.

Unless you're planning on sleeping with her, I don't see a big need to tell her. It looks like you want to get it off your chest, though.

If you are going to tell her, say the same thing you posted here. Explain your feelings to her, and let her react. Being honest is the best way to confess a lie.

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we are pretty serious, the only reason i lied was because when she first asked we really only just started talking and i was embarrassed. but i do like her and i do want to be honest with her about it. i just dont know how upset she will be.. but its something i have to do

what do you think, she i take he easy road and tell her over aim or man up and tell her face to face.

NEVER tell anyone anything important unless face-to-face.

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Let her know, but do it while you're making out and things are ramping up. If you do it when you're just sitting there having a conversation, it generally seems to result in them thinking you're overly freaked out about it, but if you do it while you are already doing sexual stuff, it's just a disclaimer in case of poor performance. They really don't care though. Girls are very accepting of just about any condition, you could tell her you can't keep it up without a magic pill to help you and she'll understand if she's into you. This is your insecurity to get over, not hers.

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believe it or not, some girls actually find that a turn on.. i mean if youve been together for a month and you havent had sex yet im guessing there is something there, so if you tell her that you're a virgin whilst you're making out in a "teach me" kinda way she will defo like it

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