K so today I got a message on facebook from this HB4 I went to highschool with in grade 8, but havent even seen her since. I never even talked to her when I did go to school with her b/c she was this hardcore smoker, and was into all sorts of drugs.

Anyways, so I log onto facebook this morning, I get a message from her basically shes just saying "hey, watsup etc." Yes it seems harmless but I dealt with the same situation last year on facebook with another unattractive girl I went to highschool with, and I was polite so I just replied back. Eventually I realized she wanted my dick in and around her mouth, while I clearly didnt. So I just ignored her messages, and wall posts completely. I felt like a huge dick about it, although it did solve the problem and eventually she stopped.

So basically I want to avoid the same situation here, but Im not sure how to do it without pulling the dick move again?...I really dont want to start talk to this broad now, considering Ive never talked to her before because she scares the shit outta me. Any input would be greatly appreciated.

You could just never respond in the first place.

Interstingly ironic concept - how to get a girl not to like you?

Think of IMing a HB with "hey, watsup" and her not being attracted to you - how would she let you down? There is no gentle way to let someone down who is attracted to you. The best you can do is make your feelings clear while being as gentle - but realistic - as possible. Do just as much as it takes to get through to the person and no more than you have to in order to spare their feelings.

- Chris

this sounds fun man, i would just neg the hell out of her and keep disqualifying and give her alots of IOD and just have a normal afc conversations

Haha, its either do the minimum or dont do anything at all...doing the minimum I feel less like a dick, but still gotta put up with a convo...ignoring her I feel like a dick, and have bad karma going forward (and with the my SAT next week, I dont want that bad karma haha)...Or if I really wanted too, I could sarge the broad and rail the warpig for notch #1 hahaha...but im really not that desperate at all

Logically that does make perfect sense but you shouldn't neg the hell out a woman who probrably doesn't have much pride about herself to begin with that's just downright disrespectful and cruel.

I've been down this road more times than I care to think about - you can't just IOD, AFC and disqualify yourself. I have tried many times with many ugly and fat girls. They have limited options and will get clingy and develop one-itis just like a male will so they will settle for a very limited guy. They will see you being alpha in other situations so they will know your faking it. Moreover, the hard to get factor will kick in which will only make her want you more because she actually believes she has a chance with you (unlike most men to her) so you will actually be appearing to be using a sort of push-pull on her and playing hard to get.

- Chris

That's the big problem man. Sounds like it's will ultimatley be bad karma one way or the other - you let her down now or you band-aid the issue until you can't any longer.

We want that middle line to spare someone's feelings but sometimes it's nonexistant. There is no real way of gentley breaking someone who has feelings of attraction for you although the warpig notch is a good idea could you even call getting a chick that easily a sarge?

I honestly don't know how guys can rail warpigs. I would involuntarily barf just trying to even kiss an UG.

- Chris

i 2nd that

I'll third that...I was just joking when I brought up that option...theres a reason I still got the V...Id have more than a few notches if I caved in and railed all the ugly chicks who've wanted me.

I'll fourth that just for the hell of it.

Be polite, but bore the hell out of her with your personal problems. Tell her about everything that's making you depressed, and how you don't have any friends anymore. Basically DLV yourself to the max. She will eventually perceive you as whiny and unattractive, and will back away from you.

The only downside to this is if she has any friends you are interested in, as she will tell them all about it.

Just say you have a boyfriend, we all know that works.(unless she knows some badass BF destroyers)

And I shall fifth that. Who wants to sixth the warpigs quote?

Yeah I'd say do what girls would do in the same situation... just respond with really short answers that display no interest at all.

Her - "How you doin'?"
You - "Not bad. You?"

Pretty self-explanatory I think, haha.

Who knows, maybe this girl just wants some conversation. I mean, I've been in related situations and it had nothing to do with conversation and I highly doubt this one has to do with conversation, buuuuut you can never be too sure.

Just be aware, don't show interest, and maybe tell her how you feel after a short time.

- Quixy

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send her a link to this thread, lol