Yeah well so did I - happy to help. I once walked up to a girl and introduced myself by grabbing her ass because I thought it was cocky and funny and didn't the concept - it didn't work out as well as I hoped.
A neg is another aspect of pickup which is frequently used wrong and misunderstood.
A neg is a statement that only someone who didn't care about the HB would say. It's an indicator of disinterest. You do this to make her believe you she has not yet won you over and you do not yet see her as a viable suitor.
This neg diminishes her sexual power and disarms her peer group. The power of a neg is in its apparent sincerity. She will think you don't give a shit about trying to impress her and because she is not used to this she will wonder why.
The simplest example of this is pulling out a tissue and blowing your nose. She'll sincerely believe that you aren't trying to impress her (otherwise you would never blow your nose in front of her.) It won't even occur to her that it's really a planned technique. You must remember that a neg is never intended to hurt a girl's feelings (many guys overuse or misuse them). It is intended to show her that you are uninterested (don't push the envelop once this is conveyed.)
You'll get used to it with practice it's one of the more subtle skills of attraction.
- Chris
