so to try and keep this weekends story as short as possible, friday go to a buddies house get together and meet this hb9. didn't think much of her when i first came in but after a shot the shit with my friends for a while to slowly turned my attention to her and her friend and smoothly came into the conversation(my afc friend was chatting with them) so we ended up talking until 3 in the morning and i could totally feel a connection between us. i didn't "run game" but i did keep "the game" in the back of my mind, you know simple stuff... straight spine, try not to dlv, remain cool and laid back, again small stuff. she told me to add her to facebook and invited us out for sat night(was celebrating finishing school)

Saturday i added her, went about my business and made contact with my afc friend who went out with the girls(ended up being the same afc, me and the same two girls) they were at a pub watching the fight(whcih was amazing) and i showed up late, pub was full so i couldn't get in to sit with them(dlv?) so after the fight i came over to them and greeted and such, she was excited to see me again and told me all about her day(i am missing some parts of the story but i am trying to keep it as short as possible without missing anything important) and then 5 of her friends filed over and she introduced me to each one of them(afc friend said she was trying to tell them about me with letting him know... i do believe the word crush or like was thrown around) so we moved locations to another pub and again with "the game" in the back of my mind i went through the night, trying to win over the friends, trying for dhv, and basically doing my best(almost stumbling through the dark lol) we did dance together(she didn't ask and neither did i) she got excited about a song/band i actually really like so we both jumped up at the same time(she seemed confused) the dancing went well i think, plenty of kino(especially near the end) and i made her laugh and she made me laugh.

so we all began to become tired and lacking in energy so we(the 4) said our goodbyes to the group of friends and headed to afc's place. luckily i had made a very poor bet which meant i had to drive her there/home. afc's place was a bust, we just sat there and did nothing, she wanted to get something going at her place but i was the only person interested (luckily afc knew what was going on )

so as we were getting ready to leave afc's place i gave her my sweater because it was cold and she was complaining. so i made sure to keep the drive somewhat interesting by double checking directions and negging her route home.

ok so i am rambling, but at her place she changed pants(kept sweater on) and we cuddled up for the first 4!! episodes of soprano's, episode 1 she slept mostly through it(she comented on how conforatable she felt around me) and then we talked about anything and everything for the next three episodes(i really don't rmemeber what happened in them)

now some major points i am unsure of for my performance are
- she told me to get a more scruffy look going on, shit-test? should i shave/keep shaving?
- she said i look like jack johnson, she loves his music... should i maintain this look?
- she said her ex kinda messed with her head and she doesn't know what she wants as of now
- i feel like i built ALOT of comfort, too much... but didn't get enough attraction
- she said she felt REALLY comfortable around me
- she is a open person, and she showed me alot of her pictures and such so it was hard to gauge if she was being extra open to me
- i told her a couple of times that she would have to kick me out(afc/dhv?)
- i told her i respect her too much as an intellectual equal to try and jump her bones(i didn't say THAT but that was the jist)
- she is going to mexico, should i let her make contact or should i just say have a good time and i'll catch you when you get back
- she had voiced how she doesn't like metro sexual, should i stop tanning or would that be a failed shit-test?
- o god there is more... but i don't want to overwhelm you guys, she is amazing. i am younger 21(her 24almost 25) and she can't believe it(she guessed my age at 27) lol see more questions... its just she is amazing, and i would rather not blow this



Rintin

Good job, It sounds like you build attraction and comfort pretty well. If she is an attractive girl she is aware of her power over men and knows what her abilities typically are. Your goal needs to be to display that you are a male who lives your life for you and isn't going to change because she wants you to - as sweet as she is, you need to remain an alpha male to keep the attraction going. Do what YOU feel like doing and if she is critical of that make it clear that you have your standards and know what they are.

The Jack Johnson comment was a compliment so roll with it. It's a really good sign that she said her ex messed with her head but she feels really comfortable (safe) with you which is a good sign - alpha males make women feel a sense of security around them. It sounds like that is why she came off to you as such an "open" person which her pictures and stuff as well. It would be a failed shit test if you walked up and said, "look, I stopped tanning like you wanted." whether you did it directly or indirectly but It sounds like you built attraction and comfort pretty well though - good job!

- Chris

thanks chris, i basically felt that i had done almost everything right... there was just a few points i was hazy on.

anyone have any insite into contacting her through the net while she is on holidays? or just let her contact me if she wants to(as in let her just enjoy her holiday)

perhaps you should wait for her to contact you first... then she would if she wants to. Also shows that you don't "need her". Just mho.

Sounds to me as this one is very much alive, though I think you need to be very strategic moving forward to AVOID her LJBF'ing you.

keep up the good work and depending on the rapport you built, it prob wouldn't hurt to at least touch base with her before she leaves (avoid Facebook, and stick to a phone call)..avoid saying anything about hanging out when she's back or whatever, have a convo, and tell her to have a safe trip.. Im almost certain if you do this, she will initiate contact with you when she gets back (don't be pissed if she doesn't contact you when she's away, people usually go on vacation to get away from EVERYTHING.. so if she does message you while in Mexico, its a big IOI !)

Sounds like you really want this to go further, so be careful of coming off as needy and like the guys above, you're a busy guy with a busy life, and you are allowing her to be a part of YOUR life.