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been talkin to this girl, its obvious she's interested in me....we went out to lunch yesterday, went great, LOTS of eye contact and smiling

find out that she has a b/f, and she says they almost broke up last weekend, and she started telling me that he is unsupportive of her and some other things (she told me her problems, i didnt bring em up), basically he sounds like an a&&hole...

then we went to the pc lab, and i told her to find my myspace...she did and looked at my profile and I am in a relationship...I'm lookin for a new one, and havnt been happy in a long time in this one, she didnt say anything but how do I explain this? Should I just come out and tell her? I was thinking of saying this: "I'm gonna be honest with you. I am in a relationship right now, but I'm in a situation similar to yours. bla bla bla not happy, looking for something more or something."

should I tell her I'm interested in her? I know she knows that I am, and should I also say the whole "I'm not trying to break you guys up or anything, but I just want to let you know that I'm interested in you, and the ball is in your court."

plz help, im new to this what would yuo guys do?

Break up with your girl or tell her you don't want an exclusive relationship.

And with this girl, I'd go for something like...

"whoa...you like moving quickly, eh?"

Idk...

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John C.

First off, change your status and never put it as in a relationship unless you have decided to be in an exclusive one. Secondly, IF IT COMES UP, tell her that you've been seeing a girl, but that you aren't in a serious committed relationship and you are interested in seeing other people in order to find the right girl. IF IT COMES UP, otherwise just keep going as usual. You never lie, but that doesn't mean you have to pour your guts out.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

so what should I do now? I really wanna take this farther

Should I still say that whole thing "I'm not tryin to break you guys up, but I just wanna let you know that I'm definately interested in you." (truth)

Or should I just sit back n wait, but I feel if I keep waiting, nothin will happen and I should take the initiative

any links would be great as well, thanks...

Keep running game on her like you have been, just don't confront the bf or gf issues unless they come up. Until then, you just act as if you are both free agents, cause having a bf or gf, doesn't mean you are off the market.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

also, what about going in for a kiss? I was gonna try yesterday, but was thrown off, should I try next time we are alone? she was gazing in my eyes a lot when we were alone yesterday. I know a few kiss-close routines, I was thinkin of usin either the close your eyes routine, or waiting for a pause in conversation, and turn her jaw towards me, and go for it. but I dont wanna run her off or anything or get in the friends zone

but she wouldnt be hangin/talkin to me if she wasnt interested right?

and dude you are the man, thx for helpin me out

if you don't kiss her, then you are more likely to go into the friend zone. If she wants you in the friend zone, it doesnt matter if you kiss her or not, cause you're heading there.

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John C.

Fuck the routines, ESPECIALLY the "close your eyes" one, because she will know exactly what is coming and if she is at all hesitant, she won't comply. Just wait till things have heated up some, there is sexual tension and she's showing you IOIs, then when you get in close enough, you kiss her. Don't talk about it, don't waste time trying to make it happen with words, because it will make you seem unconfident. Just do it and if she likes it, she will kiss you back, if not, she'll pull back, in which case you take a couple steps back in your game, build up further and give it another try.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

ok, i will just wait for a good time, then go for it if the mood is right

if she backs off saying I have a boyfriend then i'll respect that, but i gotta try, never learn until you try