i've searched the forum but can't find anything so i have to post this...my question is, according to all the books you get her to pay even on a day1. well i've been gaming a girl from the internet and we are talking about meeting up in just over a month....she has insisted that i pay for the meal and the best she is going to do is pay for herself lol....what course of action should i take?

neg her on being sexist about you paying and say she 's tightfisted.

That should work, I normally just pay my own way and have her pay hers simple as. Don't stress it or it'll seem unnatural.

thanks man trying it now

Are you serious? She said that? She might be using you.

I would make her pay for her portion at least...

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Honestly, on 95% of my Day 2s, the chicks are arguing with me to split the bill. Or, if we're doing an activity that costs money, pull the "I'll pay for this, but you're paying for burgers later." In my experience, works well.

If a chick INSISTED that I pay... NEXT!

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go c&f and say "ya know chicks usually pay my way, but I'm making an exception for you and letting us go dutch"

it depends on what you're paying for. meals, dates, that kinda stuff, i usually pay for, altho i always ALWAYS mess up the tip. not on purpose, i suck at math and the 8% thing just doesnt work cuz i forgot how to find percents long ago lol. other things tho, ill usually con my way into getting them paid for by her

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yeah she slipped it in this is what she said

her: so when you bk, may did you say or
will it be june

Me: im back in may, make sure you keep your diary
free...your taking me out

her: nooooooo you are takin me out

Me: ok but your paying

her: ha ha jus cus i work

her: idnt think so mate

her: payin for what anyway where you takin me for
a meal

her: check out my picis on myspace im sort of
standin in some of them lol

Me: is you standing a great sight? erm, well what
kinda food do you like? then i'll make a choice by
disregarding everything u say

Me:

her: huuuuuuuuuuh (shocking gasp) lol

her: jus take me where ever but i aint payin

Me: your coming to (my city) then

her: ofcorse

Me: (her city) that bad then lol

her: no you can come to my town if you want there s
the castle gate complex which has a few restaurants on it
and a showcase cinema

her: but i jus thought there would be more to do
in (my city)

Me: yeah loads more so you come to (my city), pay
for the food, i'll decide where we are going deal done.

her: NO

her: cheap arse

her: the best i will do is pay for myself and you
pay for yourself

her: but for a first date i think you could
atleast losen the purse strings alittle

Me: first date? who said anything about a first
date lol

her: well what would you call it 2 friends gettin
Together

Me: lol

her: such a guy where you takin me to eat then

Me: well i was thinking red pepers

her: love it there

her: my dad takes me there

Me: we wont go there then

her: why

her: i like it there we can go there i have made
my mind up

Me: well i aint so we can go to the slug

her: slug??

Me: slug and lettuce...you not heard of it?

her: jus cus my dad takes me there whats wrong
with you

her: red peepers is fine i aint eatin at no place
thats got slug in its name

her: i hate slugs, tenticle things sscare me

Me: you get scared by all small things?

her: tenticles is not a small thing in my mind ok

her: they are gross and slimy yak

her: we are goin red peppers

Me: so your taking me out now...

her: nooooooo your rakin me out i aint guna tell
you again alright

her: lol

her: takin*

Me: well your paying and i aint guna tell you
again ALRIGHT

she got disconnected at this point and so when she came back the topic moved on but she got back to it with

her: ok so have you realised the error of your
ways and are guna pay for dinner

her: thats what we was talkin about

Me: your just sexist...its equal opp's and all
that or r u just tightfisted lol

Me: we'll go half and half

her: yeh i can settle for that

Her: but you are buyin desert

Me: lol

Me: your so trying to get something for nothing

her: no you would have had my company that’s
Something

her: lol

her: what is takin you soo long

Me: lol

Me: im popular wat can i say lol

her: yeh ok lol im goin to bed now im tired but im
on lates next week so i might not et chance to speak to you
soo i hope you have a nice week and i hope you change your
mind and decide to pay for dinner.

her: xxx

so you can see how she is insisting i pay for it

You let her end the conversation first as well try to avoid doing that in future well done with the banter though maybe when you see her in person you can get her to pay who knows good luck dude

yeah im tryin to stop that but i can't see a pattern in the tme she decides to go or say shes going if yo get what i mean...she just says it, 8pm 11pm its totally random. in fone calls aswel shes called me 2times i called her once, she closed the 3 convo's, i tired to make it clear i was going first basically said im off she said sumin else then says bye!!lol.

meeting next week as i have to go to a meeting with work so we'll see.

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DON'T PICK UP THE CHECK!

You should split it. If she is still interested afterwards then there is potential. If she doesn't speak to you again great you just got rid of a girl looking for a free meal.

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i plan on spliting the bill

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to get her to pay for it i say "you pay for this one and ill pay for the next one"

it gets her to invest and it sets up a day 2

i'll try that when we go to a bar before food lol

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Wow!

That was a sad IM conv. That I just read.

Whats with spending most of ur energy in trying to convince this stubborn chica to merely, simply, pay for herself.

What are you trying to gain from this chica? Does this type of girl seem like the ideal "fun" to you?

I have experienced something similar to this in the past, and on the date it was uncomfortable. Nothing was "natural" and conversation and the activities seemed "forced"

Lets get real here, the idea of simply just talking about who's paying. Is a Turn-Off. For both.