'ello

Last week I sarged a girl and got a date last friday. We connected strong and build rapport very fast. Shes really cool and is a potential relationship... BUT.... she has a boyfriend. She hasn't spoken about him to me direct, I just see them chat on myspace.

This week I'm trying to balance my time. I'm working on three other girls not counting her, the three others give me tons of IOIs but arnt as interesting as the girl with a boyfriend. I'm trying to invest less time in the taken girl though, cause i could be fighting at a loss.

I have no doubt in my mind I could get this taken lass to break up with her boyfriend but it will take a lot of work and being direct.

Whats your guys experience with this, I know you guys have been in the same position before. Is it worth the extra time? Whats your story?

I havn't done this before. But, before i clicked back, a thought popped in my head. Even if this girl isn't worth the time, maybe it is worth the time to get this skill down. That way in the future, if need be, you know you can do it. So basically, if it benefits you far into the future, and makes you a better PUA...maybe it is worth it...also, if she is more interesting than the others, why not? werd.

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Hutch

I'm thinking that weather or not she has a bf doesn't matter until she says so. Just keep escalating things to the point where you are irresistible to her. So that things will happen and because she has a commitment, she will probably act like nothing happened (so that if you don't want to keep this girl, good for you). Or else, if all goes well, she might even break up with him for you.

My friend always starts talking about the girls bf right away and somehow manages to convince them to think about breaking up with the other. But I wouldn't play it his way, he's just having fun cuz he has a gf of his own and doesn't want any cheating.

So yeah, just build it up and she will make a move or accept a move by you.

I am actually hanging out with 7 different women and getting IOI's from all of them but only one I really like Im getting one-itis with her which sucks. This girl has a bf that is in his 50's and she isnt even 20 yet what the hell is up with this girl. She has told me I make her feel confused and to be honest she makes me feel confused. She has told me she isn't ready to move on with the guy she is with but she also wants to be with me. I told her she has to make a choice. She doesnt want sex yet. She wants the emotional connection which is really kinda cool cuz Im kinda wanting that but not until she moves on. This is a shitty feeling tho cuz I really like her but I also like the game too. So I figured until she is ready to move on from her bf or how I like to call it her fraud issues Im going to keep playing the game.

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Genuine Heart

WOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!! Dude, Genuineheart, slow down buddy. I think this girl you want is not what you should be going after. She isn't even 20 and she is witha 50 year old? She's confused and makes you feel confuse? What are you talking about, do you even play the game. This sounds like some girl is getting beaten by her father and is in love with him b/c it started at such a young age (the sexual abuse that is) and now you are so desprate for "love" you want to save her or something...

Get out of the one-itis my friend.

you told her she has to make a choice? I didn't read that in the game plan...

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Hutch

I dunno about breaking people up just for training your game HutchN that doesn't sound entirely cosher..
But as for whether it's worth it I'd say in most cases probably no..
Could mean alot of work for nothing if she goes back to him again wich alot of girls do alot of the time.
That would make you look and feel bad, and maybe damage your confidence for a while..

On the otherhand if you really like her then ofc you should go for it.

A "trick" I've used is talking to her about him and always refer to him in some silly nickname, based on what you know about him.. Making fun of him in a way that doesn't piss her off (behind his back ofc ;P)..

I'm no pro though.. hehe

hmm interesting

Well she texted me this morning and we planned a date for friday again.
Im going to say, hopefully stick to it, that friday I will bring all my guns out and try my hardest. If I see that the day went no where in our relationship Im just going to move on.

I think I'm going to lay it down like : "Its a shame you arn't single because you would so be my dating type"

I dunno if you should say that. Maybe "you want me" but not that...ha. She hasn't even told you she had a boyfriend. I mean, I know you know she has one, but that is really your problem. And although I do not advocate just seducing girls to get them to break up with their bf, if she hasn't told you about him and is still going out with you. SHE WANTS TO BREAK UP WITH HIM. But, she'd rather have him than no one. Basically, I think if you work out he is done, if not, she doesn't want to be alone... but if that is true, and I was in your situation, i wouldn't wanna be with a girl that is to insecure to be alone. Of course, i do not know if that is what is actually going on...but, it's deffinatly a possibility. That or she doesn't like breaking up and she needs a better excuse so it's easier...i dunno.

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Hutch

Yeah I've dwelved into this also Hutch. Maybe I should just take the point that she does not have a boyfriend until she tell me in real life that she has one. Either way though i have to let her know I'm very interested in becoming more than friends.

yeah, well, I believe the best way to tell a girl that you are interested in being more than friends is by A) body language B) Telling her she wants you as more than a friend. But I don't think you should ever tell her you like her or anything, unless it's like after you've been seeing her for awhile. If you want to tell her you like her, just use the kiss test, by David D. or the animal phase shift by Style..or mystery's, they are all good. You want to know if she likes you, not tell her you like her...cause if she likes you you can kiss her, and that tells her all she needs to know.

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Hutch

Now, this IS an interesting topic,

Hey Charge, I know what you mean, I've there before man
now when there is strong emotional connection (your case), the game still applies, don't let your emotions screw you over, she wants you to make the first move.

My story was meeting a really costa rican, who I flirted with and told each other "cute" things, though she had a boyfriend, the day I asked her out, she dind't even mention her boyfriend, (she had previously told me about him), she just broke up with him a day after (I know she had 2 bf's for one day, what a player, hA! ). There is the whole lesson of it, if you read books like "The Art of Seduction" by Robert Greene, you will understand what I mean, maybe she's not happy with him, or maybe she could just be happier with you. (If you have read the book, maybe you forgot, it happened to me too)

You sure have your game focused, I've read your posts, and I have one thing to say "Respect", plus you have all the advice you could get in this site, just go for it man, after all, your chances are better off going at it, than just never saying it.

Get her tiger

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One more quick thing about this stuff. I am a college student. I am taking an interpersonal communications class and I just read that one important factor when it comes to staying or going in a relationship is satisfaction and stability. Satisfaction means they are satisfied, stability means they have other options that might be better then what they have now. So basically the girl could be satisfied aka happy with her relationship but if you are a better alternative then she will leave her curent relationship. That will then make her Satisfied and stable b/c at that moment you are the best option so there are no better options...are goal as aspiring PUAs is to always be the best option...Satisfied and Stable baby.

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Hutch