I hate to hijack this thread, but I have a very similar problem to several of the people in this forum area.
Essentially, I met a girl on Saturday night, she gave me her number +several hours dancing, looking in each others eyes, kissing, strong connection. I gave her a slightly altered name cus my name is hard to explain in a loud room. I called her Tuesday and she picks up fast and we have a nice conversation. I didnt catch her name so I asked her for her name 'so i could add her on Facebook'. She gave it, and after about 3 minutes we hung up, she said call me again. I add her on Facebook (my name is different on there from what I;ve told her so far).
On Thursday I call, no response. I call on Friday, telling myself thats not needy cus she likes me loads, but no response. So I'm at a total loss.
I look up some stuff on the internet, and create what I think is a perfect Facebook message - the right combination of confidence, C&F and challenge:
Hey HB8,
playing hard to get already?!
You've taken your first bite from the jam doughnut, surely you want to reach the delicious gooey centre!
Was planning to organise a meeting one of these weekends, give me a shout if you're still interested
Serai
Sent this on Sunday afternoon, and haven't made another move since. I feel like this message is so good, if she doesn't reply she has no sense of humour.
So, any guidance on what to do/what I did wrong? I'm concerned it might be my Facebook profile giving a bad impression (NOTHING dodgy, maybe a bit immature). I don't think i look ugly enough on the profile to make her spurn me tbh.
Im 18, attending university in a few months, as is she.
I've had a look around this forum already and a lot of similar stuff has happened to others, which lowers my concern. The blank text message would have been an alternate, maybe better approach to my FB message.
"I hope me being on your mind hasn't been too much of a distraction. Where are you taking me (this/next week/weekend)" is too needy for me now imo,
"Stop thinking about me and pay attention at school'' is again too desperate imo.
"stop thinking about me and pay attention in class!" at 11.20am when she's been bored for 3 hours in class already dying to get out of class and take a lunch break - maybe a good option