Like ive been experimenting with Eye contact and im having trouble deciding what strong eye contact is. you look at each other for like 5 seconds just stare at eachothers eyes IDK cuz sometimes it seems like im be convorsing and the HB will be sitting their talking to the group and while she is talking she will glance over all the guys and then she will stop at me and look in my eyes for like 3 seconds then continue scanning the rest and then come back to me for another 3 seconds seems like an IOI but idk weather she is totally fixated and interested or just weirded out that im looking at her idk ive been thinking about what Hypnotica talks about being present minded and that being a very attractive factor so i would practice sitting in a mirror looking into my eyes just noticing my breathing (feeling that FIRE in THE bELLY or CENTER as he would say)

maybe thats been paying off or is she weirded out ??

hope this is enough to see where im at

***Duke23***

Just go open the set, and find out. She most likely very interested in you. Stop over thinking things and just act.

im 100% with jules, hesitation has never gotten me anywhere!

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You have to remember to give her a smile, just a sly smile will do. If she smiles back or blushes and looks away but looks at you again. Approach her.

A word of advice for eyecontact: practice it in everyday situations (sounds stupid?). Although, I don't advocate seeking eyecontact. Just look in a girl's general direction and meet her eyes when she looks at you. Look straight into her eyes and try to find your comfort and confidence.

I read the tip in some post somewhere, by someone. First rule is: you must never be the first to break eyecontact. You will feel naked and really weird in the beginning. But it will get better.
The article I read stated two other rules: never smile before her (because you will get smiles), never say hi before her (I've never got a "hi" from a stranger just by eyecontact, yet).

This has at least given me a comfort with eyecontact. Because it is a biiig difference between holding contact and keeping contact. The first one is like being a deer in the headlights of a speeding truck. While the other is like... well you know when you get it right.

When your eyes meet across the room: make a move no later than the second time you make eyecontact.

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duuuuuude, chicks love eye contact because they want to know you are paying attention to what they are saying. A lot of girls don't have a problem with eye contact it seems, but there are always exceptions of insecurity.

WTF?!?! Ok, maybe the first one will go. But I don't get it - never say hi,
then never get response - sound like someone wants to stay in their shells for the rest of their lives! There is one great rule, ya know - you start it![/b] We are supposed to do the first choice!

Also, Duke, if you get so strong eye contact, no question there. Go and sarge.

About breaking EC, use it to your advontage. You may seem needy, but also not interested. Read on! Eye contact conveys one main thing - EMOTION. Strong emotion. Whatever it may be, it is emotion. For instance (from girls wiew), 1 second means "hm, there is guy over there", 2-4 sec. says "does he like me?". 5-10 seconds means "Is there something wrong with me" OR "This guy is weird/pussy/creepy". Over ten seconds - "WTF?"

Also, it depends pretty much on how you look at her. Are you looking at her happily? Staring? Grinning? Frowning? It all has a huge effect.

Carpe diem.

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