I was having a lot of success with women. I felt good about it. But last weekend I went to a party on friday and to a strip club on saturday. I mede an oath to myself to get at least a kissclose that weekend.

I didnt even opened successfully.

I wasnt even able to talk for more that 20 seconds straight to a girl. I tried to pick up a waitress (HB9) things went perfectly for like 30 secs...but eventually I fucked up.

Its not important how I fucked up...I know exactly what went wrong.

Anyway, I got to talk to a girl after the strip club thing and I did pretty well. I discovered a way of talking to girls in a playful way...but really the playfullness happens in the subtext, works pretty well, Im going to post about it later.

Im now over last weekend's events. But now, I now I can fail. Since I've discovered this PUA thing, I never failed on an interaction with a girl.

But now I dont now what to say to PEOPLE on a ordinary everyday conversation. Its like I have forgot the freaking English language or something!!

Maybe PUA stuff gave me confidence, but now I feel like I have to make the most of every interaction with a girl.....thats a lot of pressure.

What I need to figure out is a way of just chill and have a good time, Its like Im "on" every freaking second of the day...and if I just dont open a set on the bus...or if I dont get a girl on church attracted to me...I feel like crap.

Anyone can help my out with this one?

Please, give me a answer that requires effort, commitment, and discipline. I hate quick fixes...that kind of thing never works on this buissness.

(I post here cause on the sticking points forum nobody ever answers.)

just like mystery said "there should be a pickup artist in your head that you can switch on and off whenever and wherever you want"

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my friend, i know you want some long and difficult way of fixing this problem, fact is, the answer is simple.

it comes from a p.u.a named mystery,
"being in the field should be like playing a videogame, level one, open, level two dhv, so on so fourth, if mario dies, who gives a fuck, press reset, i meen, if he dies it sucks, ur kinda ticked but u dont really care, hey, die enough times in a night you might put the game down for the night, but its not like you lose your confidence in being able to play fucking mario"

dont act like you dont care, dont care.

secondly, if you c&b'ed in your first 30s you didnt stack your routines, you came in with one opener, and then froze, learn more canned material in and out.

anythin else i can do f or ya?

Thanks man...Im trying to just have fun know. The video game thing works, but I discovered a new way: Go in to blew it. With that mindset is REALLY hard to blew a set

Well bro, I'm pretty to new to this PUA stuff myself but something that I've just kinda accepted is to just give up outcome. View every attempt as you vrs your game, not you vrs the girl. Every approach you do, every number you call is a chance to improve your game. Thats it. IF it leads to an Fclose or a relationship then those are just perks of you playing the game well.
An example is that I'm gaming this girl from school right now. I'm starting to get strong IOI's but whenever the thought enters my head "Dude this girl's into you, you can totally have a LTR with her" I shut it down and say "no its not about that its about working on my game here and now"

Hope that helps

~Bennjimin

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