Hey guys,

I know how to set a metaframe really good and fast.
Probably better than most of you.

I'm having a LOT of trouble building comfort with girls though, any help on this??

Now that I think back on it, I have never been taught how to build repore and comfort..

Style says, "Rapport = Trust + Comfort."

Comfort is the ability of the target to be real with you- to say things that she would not say to a stranger, to display emotion she would usually hide- basically, to be herself.

Comfort is built when you throw bits into your routines that highlight your comfort with her. If you want her comfortable with you, show her you're comfortable with her. You can do this by giving kino (because you're comfortable enough to touch her), but women are driven by their emotional connections, so for real comfort-building, share information about yourself that you wouldn't usually tell a stranger.

This includes, for instance, while telling a DHV story about a crazy stunt you pulled once, "I was scared... and I know it's not macho to say it, but I'll just going to tell you how I REALLY felt- I was scared to death..." and then describing how you did something amazing.

To build comfort, you should briefly and regularlly show the target that you are not a robot, that you have feelings, and that your emotions are not armor-plated bulletproof. While being alpha is important, being alpha doesn't mean being invulnerable. If you seem to put yourself out there, an attracted woman with mirror that.

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Omg, I just loosened up SLIGHTLY and the bitch shield returns.

When I do stay an asshole and continue the negging, they like it but I can't build the rapport I need to start making the attraction come into play.