| Today it hit me why I got into PUA in the first place. I realize now what it is that I was searching for, and what it is I've been working at. I've grown up in a society that forces everyone to conform to its own rules- rules for everyone's behavior. Look at everyone- they all form gears in society's machinery. Even counter-culture, rage-against-everything groups still function in their own corner of the world. I learned everything about who I am by other people's likes, dislikes, suggestions, and threats.
Before PUA I wasn't bad off- I was a moderately social individual, I had a decent group of friends, a few dating options. But I was still trapped in a social bubble, acting in a way that I knew wasn't best, but didn't understand.
Then came PUA, and now, later, I've gotten to a place I never knew existed. Now, I can meet anyone- male, female, old, young- and not have to stare at my feet. I can walk into a room and just have fun. I can listen and share with people. I can choose my friends. I can choose my dating options. I have freedom. That's the fruit of PUA: FREEDOM. I don't have to be the most social person sometimes. Other times I do. I can be who I what, and not have to ask myself why I'm not more like so-and-so. I AM ME.
I don't have to be a quarterback in the Rose Bowl to get the what I want. I don't have to be rich. I don't have to be good-looking, or muscle-bound. I don't have to be a porn star. I don't have to be on TV, or famous, or anything. I could be the most unappealing person, and still be myself.
I have friends now that I couldn't have had before. Girls I briefly meet still smile and wave when I walk by. Beautiful women don't phase me. I am more of a leader in everything. I can be as dominant or as submissive as I choose. I can say what I think and not be intimidated. I can empathize with people. I communicate better on every level. I don't have to apologize for being myself. I don't have to sleep with anyone, fight anyone, or be friends with anyone to prove who I am.
Now, I make the choices. I can be the sexiest guy around, or the most intellectual, or the most average. I can be who I am, and still be accepted by people. I have social freedom, and I can choose what part I play in the social machine, instead of having an unspoken set of rules governing it.
This is why we all lean on PUA- it teaches us how to bring the man inside ourselves out, so that everyone can see and respond. In the end, that's all I want. That's what being a PUA is all about.
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