Im new to this whole game, i havent dated for awhile and i've been get myself back into it. Im half decent with girls, but im very picky about girls i date. I finally found a great girl on St pattys day, I did well picking her up, drove her home and made out for abit. We've been texting and talking on the phone the last 2 weeks, but have not been able to get together because of busy schedules.

We finally hungout today after she got off of work today. She was really tired and not up for doing anything, so we stayed in and watched the game. This where things started to suck.
She sat on a different couch as me. I though it wasnt that big of a deal because she has told me she doesnt like clingy guys and likes space.
Conversation was really onesided for the most part, with me asking all the questions. We did share a few laughs and i was neg her abit

Twice during the night she said sorry for not being more exciting and when i did leave she said sorry for the night and in a sarcastic tone said " well if you want to hangout again give me a call" and laughed like she knew she blew it! I gave her hug and went on my way

She has some intrest in me, because she always returns my phone calls and sometimes texts me randomly. We have decent conversations most of the time.

I just dont understand why the date went so bad? and if i should even bother trying a second date?
I do like this girl and want long term from this rather then just sex

Any advice on how to recover from this?


sorry if my grammer and spelling suck!

To be blatently honest with you, she's not into you man. You have to next her and look for other chicks. Maybe you didn't escalate enough, or maybe you acted like you were scared to get with her, but whatever it is she's not into you. Personally, I would have avoided the 2 weeks of phone calls and texting. That kind of stuff puts you in the friend zone with a girl. Only talk or text to a girl that you haven't slept with yet to set up a time/place to meet up.

Sorry bro. It's not the end of the world, but ya gotta move on.

sounds like she wants you to make a move. you could have made her more comfortable by playfully throwing pillows at her and pouncing on over to that couch. if you create the right mood she's not going to want space or worry about being more exciting. s/f

Don't worry too much about it. She screwed up not you. I would wait 3 or 4 days to contact her. Let her be the one to contact you first. If she does, she is still interested. If you want to text her make it funny, keep a light mood. Or email her a funny/dorky video. Just keep and upbeat energetic vibe going.

Often times when a woman thinks or knows she did something wrong it will kinda push her buttons to keep in contact. It triggers their insecurity and makes them want to do something to make it up. She told you to call her, so to me that sounds like a shit test. So dont call for a while. Im sure after texting and calling her for the past two weeks you have a pretty good idea of her schedule.

After a few days, if she doenst contact you, maybe text something like "Hey! Meet me for coffee at the bookstore @ 730 on thursday. "

Just freeze her out for now.

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