hey all i just joined up. i was just wondering about a night i had a few weeks ago and last week. 2 weeks ago i was at a pub and was chatting with a fairly hot chick, just trying out the whole game thing. anyway my friend was distracting the cockblock (some ug girl). the ug then said they were gonna get a drink, the hb asked if wanted to come and then promtly ignored me once at the bar. we all then went our separate ways after they had their drinks. anyone no what i did wrong??
failure also comes with success,last thurs night at a dance club me and about 5 of my mates were dancing, i decided to try out a new approach. it work with about 4 of the 5 groups i tried it to. i pulled out my camera and pretended to have trouble taking a group photo. we all were facing the set of girls and this generally involved one of them taking the camera and taking the photo. ice broken.
any input on the problem i had with the bar girl is greatly appreciated.
thanks

I can't offer an opinion without knowing what you did when you got to the bar. I can't imagine she just immediately switched up in the time it took to walk from one side of the room to the other, so I have to assume there was some kind of change in your behavior, that you got nervous and choked up or the ug finally took the wind out of you.

When she asked you if you're coming to bar, thats a compliance test (hoop), you coulda said 'yeah in a minute' or 'no, can you get my drink for me, here's the money' and responded with your own compliance test. Its better than following her about like a lost lamb. You need to take the lead and control the frame.
When you was at the bar, did you say something to them and they blanked you or did you say nothing and they said nothing? if they ignore you bust on them for it, neg them, c+f or what not

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You should have said no that you would have found her later or to wait a minute. If you are already following her around and you just met do you think thats what she wants? NOOOOO

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when i got to the bar i pulled a joke about the service and how they can buy me a drink. they laughed at the joke but then it seemed like she just sorta swtiched off. after a drink (We all had a tequila shot) she started to ignore me. thanks for the combined help tho. next time i will tell her i will meet her inside and that i gotta meet a friend or something. maybe i shuda number closed, i had the signs up till the bar. uve all given me abit to think about how to handle the sit.

thanks

Exactly what I was going to say. She presented the hoop and you jumped through. You made it too easy. Remember, its' a game. She said "come along", you say "not right now".