I dated this girl a couple times last summer, and now me and her are in a band together (believe it or not she can shred on a guitar), and we are together alot of the time. She has a boyfriend, which she is going to prom with 3 weeks from now, and they have gone out for 6 months. but at the same time she flirts with me constantly, which of course i flirt back. I could easily find myself another person to date, but im still curious about her. How do a put my cards on the table, so to speak, with her and not appear to be an asshole or a relationship breaker?

She's one girl. Why not go find another that you don't have oneitis for? This is a waste of your time and energy to focus on this one girl.

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They've been going out for 6 months and are planning to go to prom together, if I were that guy it'd hate for someone to just barge in and steal my chick just like that.

You mentioned she's great on guitar... do you play? If you do that would be a good connection you guys can make. Churn out negs from her guitar playing, offer some tips, spend more time together and go from there.

I wouldn't touch this one, there're easier free girls out there, and taken people are often more desirable... so who knows, maybe if you don't get to know her too well, she'll be curious about you sometime soon.


MichaelAngelo

They've been going out for 6 months and are planning to go to prom together, if I were that guy it'd hate for someone to just barge in and steal my chick just like that.

You mentioned she's great on guitar... do you play? If you do that would be a good connection you guys can make. Churn out negs from her guitar playing, offer some tips, spend more time together and go from there.

I wouldn't touch this one, there're easier free girls out there, and taken people are often more desirable... so who knows, maybe if you don't get to know her too well, she'll be curious about you sometime soon.


MichaelAngelo

Well he said that they have dated before and they are in the same band. So the constant flirts can he lingering feelings left over from whatever you guys had. Since you see each other often, it is constantly there because theres no time to get over each other.

You mentioned prom, I am guessing high school?

Most relationships won't last past college anyway, so I personally don't think that is a problem if you are trying to re-pursue. Just be careful so you don't fuck up your band.

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im a senior, but will be going to college in town next year and possibly for the next four years unless i transfer to IU

we connected through guitar, but i play bass (i spell it Bace though, hence the name)

she spends more time with me than him.

and im not gonna act like i dont have oneitis, but its more than that for me. this is challenge. i know i can pull this chick, and ive already got her attention. make me out to be as much of a devious bastard as you want, but her current boyfriend is a fuckin idiot.

she has such a nice ass, one of the perks of being 1/4 cuban

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If you haven't sharpened your skills as a PUA and this is the first girl you are going to attempt it on, then don't bother, cause you'll probably screw up. You think anyone here got success with their oneitis as soon as they learned a few new skills? I sure didn't and she was already doing naked cam shows for me on msn.

This isn't a magic pill. You need to work on the skills before you can be sure that you can pull a girl, unless she's already throwing herself at you, but then you wouldn't need this stuff.

P.S. She probably spends more time with you, because you are her friend and in her band. Lots of people don't spend most of their time with their significant other.

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