So i just came back from my date with this really nice looking girl, that would be a hb 8.5.

She was small, with beautiful dark brown hair and a really nice face, she also dose some modeling work.

I'm not a big fan of peacocking, but i like to show-off, so i wore a bright red shirt, black wrist clock, black necklace and some black accessories.

So we had set a time and a place where we would meet, but about 30 minutes earlier we met by accident, so i gave her a hug (mistake?) and we went to the coffee shop together.

I asked what she would like to drink and bought a coffee for both of us, and i sated us down in the corner table so it would be just me and her.
But the second we sat down she shut down, there was only this really uncomfortable silence (before we have talked on the computer and we would talk for hours with no silences or anything!).
She say's that she's tired and she didn't have a good night sleep ( i didn't buy it!) So i started asking her things, and tryed to get the conversation going... and it worked, soon we talked about food, traveling, clothing ect.
We sat there for about two and a half hours and she didn't give me any compliments, i tryed to fish them by saying "you have a nice smile", or " you smell good" so she would have the opportunity say " thanks, you too!" but nothing! I gave her a couple of small neg's and they worked, she just laughed!

I saw she enjoyed my company and she was laughing and playing with her hair all the time (thats a good sign right?) and when i saw that she's about to leave i told her that im going to a female friend of mine's.

Before this date, we have talked on the computer and she's given me compliments about my looks and my personality.

Do you think she was just shy, and that's why se was quiet, and didn't give that much IOI's or compliments to me?
Or then she's just not in to me!

But im not giving up on her, I really liked the way she looked!

Well I'll propably talk to her again today on the computer, so should i ask her out again, or should i wait for her to ask me out?

And what would be a good second date, a walk in the park, movies ?
A place i could make some physical contact with her, and tease her a bit.

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Walk in the park sounds good.

Some girls are just shy. Also, she might actually like you a lot, so she could have just been really nervous. Even though a lot of us guys are constantly working on overcoming our anxiety in such situations, a lot of girls don't.

Don't sweat it too much. Just go with the assumption that she really digs you. Remember to maintain your frame.

Yes, you need to kino (i.e. touch) her more. She was attracted but you probably didn't flip enough of her switches.

You should consider reading The Venusian Arts Handbook if you haven't already.

And for god sakes stop complimenting her all the time, neg her a little more and make her laugh at the beginning to break the ice.

The coffee was no big deal, but try not to buy other things for her on the next date. In fact, try to get her to buy you something. You don't want to be the guy that "always buys her stuff".

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I'm really starting to like this forum, only a couple of seconds and two replies all ready!

I should take her out to a park or some place casual next time (or in fact she should)

I'll probably wait that shell talk to me on the computer and take a step back, let her do some work to earn my attention.

Thanks for the replies, you guys rock!

I'd save the walk in a park for another time. You need to up the kino, so see if there is anything around you that involves some physical contact.

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You were being way too accommodating in the beginning it sounds like. This only comes off as you wanting something from her. Same with the fishing for compliments. It's unauthentic because she can see you want something out of it. You're in the mindset of you chasing her, you should reframe that. Go on a date to somewhere that isn't cliche and where you can talk.