This is turning into a special kind of crazy.

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If you’re accepting that you’re treating her purely as a friend then you wouldn’t ask these questions. If you still want to flirt - do that, if you don’t want to flirt - do that. This suggests you haven’t really accepted defeat, would you ask these questions about any other friends?

I doubt you want to be friends with her. I wouldn’t block her as it could seem a bit petty. Just avoid her

Blocking is an emotional response. I only block women if they're stalking me. I once had a girl ask to move in after we had sex. She texted me something like thirty times in a row begging to move in.

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Think blocking her on all social media is over-reacting don’t you think?

Nope.She is a young college girl.doesn’t look much experienced.I wouldn’t be surprised to hear this things from them.i will just lie low and there is no pressure on md to get laid as i have a fuck buddy who keeps me busy lol.

I want to avoid her and at the same time i don’t want to block as that would be showing too much reaction which never works.Even if i ignore her like i have being doing over the past few days,she will contact me so my question is what should i do when she contacts me? Are you suggesting i ignore all her texts or reply to them like i normally would which is usually a fun flirty vibe.What should be my approach here? I don’t want to be friends with her as that defeats the total purpose that made me approach her in the first place.

Her: Hey Matador.
You: Hi. It's Netflix and beer night at my place tonight. Swing by.
Her: I can't!
You: Cool, no worries. Gotta run, someone is calling.

Then you don't contact her.

Five days later:

Her: Hiiiiiii Matador!
You: Hey there.
Her: What are you up to?
You: Asking you out for a drink. Bar X at 9, tonight.
Her: I can't!
you: That's cool! Gotta run, someone is at my door.

Five days later:

Her: Hiiiiii Matador!


NO TEXT BACK FROM YOU.


This girl needs to learn that you're the prize, that you're the party. If she can't learn that, you next her.

also, you need to get the fuck off the phone. You've fallen into the trap of being her pen pal, not her lover.

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You are giving her every excuse you can. She's young and inexperienced. You're only curious because of the amount of time she spends on the phone with you. You can't go no contact because she'll contact you. After all of those excuses there is still no date that has happened.

This girl is playing games. The only way to keep a girl from playing games with you is to not play them with her. If you don't play games, she has two choices...walk away or fall into line. If she really wants a relationship then her only response is to fall into line.

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@Jackzero so what do you mean by not playing games with her? could you be more specific please? Like what exactly should i do with her so that she falls into line or even walks away? And what should i do when she gets in touch? Should i ignore her texts or reply to them different from how i would normally do which is reply in a fun flirty way.

Right now, what she's doing is showing you everything that she can to keep you on the hook without meeting up with you. She knows that you are interested in going out on a date with her and if you started to believe a date wouldn't happen, you'd probably stop talking to her. You entertaining all of that is you playing the game with her.

I wouldn't contact her anymore if I were you. If she called me, I'd keep it cordial and after a few minutes I'd end the conversation without any excuses or explanation. If she's not really into you and was just using you to pass the time, she's going to go away. If she is into you or simply liked the attention that you gave her, she's going to inquire why your attitude towards her has changed. Your response to that is what will be important. Be up front and say that it doesn't seem like she's interested in meeting so you decided not to waste any more time by continuing to ask. If she just liked the attention you gave her, she'll probably figure out a way to point the finger back at you (guilt trip). If she's into you then she'll probably be more apologetic and attempt to prove that she does want to meet with you. The thing is that you need to be willing to walk away so that you don't overly invest and show her that you'll walk away so that she knows that she has to do some of the investing.

You play her game, you'll keep getting what she's giving you. You pretend to be cool with her blowing you off, you'll keep getting blown off.

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Huh? You were just given the answer to this.

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100% right Arch. Who do these guys think they are asking for someone else's opinion after you have given one? Sometimes I don't understand what goes through these guys heads. #TeamStanton #ArchGetsTheLastWord

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Pretty sure you'd agree with the advice I gave...or a close approximation. A chance to find common ground, rather than negativity. Guess not.

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If you want the honest truth, I don't think it's good advice because it continues with the game play because it's transparent. Let's break it down:
Just for the fact that this is text, it's unrealistic. You'd know good and well a girl was lying to you if she said texted you, "Hey, I gotta go because my phone is ringing." You'd be smart enough to know it was her response to you saying that you couldn't make it out for a date since normal people explain a call came in after it happened. It's playing games. Saying "Cool, no worries," is also a way of saying that it's fine for her to keep doing this same song and dance that keeps ending up the same way...no date. When you have to let a person know that you aren't affected, you're indirectly telling them that you are affected. This isn't as bad as the above but it's still bad communication. The "That's cool!" is more humorous than it is bad but explaining that someone is at your door when she rejects the date is still transparent and it still shows that you are playing her game. Both examples are showing the guy as being reactive.

What would make this good is after she says that she can't, he says "OK". What insight would she get about him? Could she tell that he's disappointed or indifferent? If she could tell either, she knows what her next move should be. If he's disappointed, she'll do something that will give him some hope. If he's indifferent, she'll do something to try to make him care. Therefore, the games continue. The "OK" response will evoke uncertainty. Uncertainty evokes a need for answers. Once she starts needing the answers is when he gets to make the rules on how things go. He gets to say what she needs to do to keep his interest.

So yes, I can agree with an approximation of what to message in the words when it comes to asking her out but the problem is what the underlying message communicates. However, if I would have explained the problem in the overall message..history with you says that there would be no looking for common ground but instead the conversation would turn into how I don't get laid, that I need to go to the gym, or some other nonsense that leads things off topic.

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I don’t even bother responding to a girl’s rejection. If that means no contact so be it. I don’t even like saying something brief like “ok” or “cool”, I’d rather make it clear that I don’t NEED her.