I have been meaning to write this post for a while.

I cannot believe some of the garbage I read here and other forums. Most "PUAs" (I hate that term but I am going to save that for another post) say "be direct" "tell her I thought you're cute and wanted to talk to you"

I tried that probably 40 times. It didn't work once.

Why? because women like a challenge. When you say that to her, the problem is solved. "he likes me" puzzle solved. no excitement any more. If I know a soccer game's score will be 2-0 why the fuck would I watch it?

you should always be ambiguous. she should always have this question mark in her head. does he like me? is he saying these things to flirt with me? or is he just playing around for his own entertainment? is he being serious or just joking (by the way, you should never be clear whether you're being serious or joking, be semi-serious semi-joking ambiguous)

the other day I was at the store and I had only one thing to buy. this woman in front of me had a bunch of things. she said "you can go ahead in front of me. I have a lot of little things" I said "oh really? I have a lot of big things" she started laughing, I stood there with a serious face, she said "oh, you were being serious"

by the way, please stop saying "what's your name" and extending your hand for a handshake. too much interest. not ambiguous at all.

This is just my experience and I wanted to share it in case there are guys here who feel like they are stuck because every time they approach a girl it just doens't work and they can't figure out why.

It failed all 40 times?

If you're a good looking guy then the "you're cute" approach works. The problem is that most guys who are "PUA's" are actually good looking guys and don't realize that a compliment based on appearance only works if in her eyes is generally only appreciated if you are attractive yourself.

A woman is going to look at your attractiveness in at least one of three ways. Your looks, your personality, or what you have to offer her. If all you are doing is approaching her based on her looks and you've failed 40 times, the issue is most likely that you are an average or below average looking guy and your "you're cute" opener is falling on deaf ears then you need to focus on maximizing your looks and at the same time developing an attractive personality. Once she sees that your personality (or you drop an SPAM receipt showing big numbers) is attractive then you can drop a "you're cute" compliment on her and she'll appreciate it.

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A job recruiter hits you up on linkedin or wherever and tells you "I like your resume, I'd like to chat."

Does this mean you have the job?
Does this mean there is no challenge?

If you're being direct with women and women aren't challenged, then thats on you. I can tell a chick I find her attractive....It doesnt mean I like her. It doesnt mean "problem solved." I may dislike her voice, I may dislike her smile, I may dislike her sense of humor, I may dislike her intellect, I may dislike her personality, I may dislike how she kisses, I may dislike her choice of movies, I may dislike her sexual skills and on and on and on. Telling a chick you find her attractive is telling her you like ONE thing at THIS moment. I'm sorry OP but if women arent challenged when you're direct, thats prob because YOU are sold on them from the word hi. You can be direct with a chick and all the way to taking her to your bedroom she's thinking "I betta fuck him well because if I suck he's gone." Just having standards will always challenge a woman.

Hi guys,

interesting and enlightening.