There is this girl that i have been dating on and off.I brought her over twice and it was almost impossible to get intimate with her because she was physically resisting everything.we had an arguement and i froze her out for some few weeks.

She recently texted me on facebook and we started talking.Of late she seems to talk dirty to me and when i try to sexualize too she changes the topic.I am confused.Is she down to fuck or she is just playing me?

I don't know how to take it from there.I want to just start up slowly again maybe meet her in a mall or something and then maybe bring her over the second date.I just don't know how to transition her dirty talks to real sex.The more i try to play along when she tries to sexualize,the more she pulls away which is confusing because she is the one who started the whole thing!

I am meeting her tomorrow in the mall so what to do?

Any thoughts would be appreciated.

post convo

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Her:tonight i am attending my friend's birthday party but we can meet up tomorrow.
me:cool.I guess you are gonna dance there as if it was your last day on earth.
Her:yes i will shake my booty lol
me:lol i doubt whether you can shake it like beyonce.
her:i can you whore
me:lol when did i become a whore? did you fuck me lol
her:right from this moment
me:and which position are you fucking me in lol
her:The one you asked for
me:You can't handle the one i will ask for.It will break your back lol
her:really
me:Stop it you are turning me on lol
her:And what will you do if i twerk for you
me:lol ill tell you to drop everything you are wearing,caress all the soft parts with my soft hands and feel your lips all over mine and grab that soft ass of yours
her:i don't like my ass getting grabbed.
me:lol okay
her:can we talk about something else

Literally she does this most of the time.i am not the one who sexualizes our convos.

You are tho.

She called you a whore, but you're the one who took it to a sexting attempt.

Besides this is a girl you've already attempted (and failed?) to fuck twice. At this point you're coming across as thirsty, which isn't exactly a turn on. Even in the convo snippet above it feels like she game you a crumb and then you immediately jumped on that and went sexual. Like I said, comes off as thirsty.

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Thanks for the honest reply.I actually froze her out when i failed with her twice.I went on some few dates with her and she says she loves me which is weird because she didn't want to be physically intimate which i usually think is the biggest indicator of whether someone is into you or not or am i wrong?

Needless to say,she flaked on me yesterday.We were to meet up but she cancelled on me hours before we were to meet up.she was also updating her SPAM story with some romantic stuff and i got the sense that she was talking about another guy.I replied to her story in a jealous way and told her that i wish her the best with her new guy.She didn't respond.I stopped texting her after that.

From now two things will happen; either she will contact me in the next one or two weeks or she won't contact me at all.How do i flip it and get with her.whatever game i have becomes impotent when it comes to this chick.I know i have made a lot of mistakes with her so how do i correct them? since we haven't talked for a long time i was thinking of first meeting her in a public and having a non sexual date but after her latest move of flaking on me i want to go direct if at all she contacts me and if i fail with that, just freeze her out.What do you think of that plan.

First, why would you want to flip it and get a girl who said she loves you yet there was no intimacy between the 2 of you?
That's such an obvious red flag. Do you not see it or do you not want to see it?

Second, you can't unbreak glass. Guys always get caught in this endless loop of "how do I fix it". You can't fix it. If there is something to be fixed before something real even happened(like sex) then it's not fixable.

Third, why do you guys sabotage yourselves? You see something on social media, assume the worst, and then respond to that as if your assumption was cold hard fact. It's not. It's a scenario you played in your head. It may or may not actually be real, but acting on it is stupid nonetheless.

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UPDATE: i ended pursuing her and it was worth it.I went sarging a lot of late and got to meet a few girls.