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actually, i think its fine to ask a girl out over text IF you have enough comfort.
i suppose it depends on the cultures of each country, but here its pretty normal to text a girl you've just met. in fact, hardly anyone calls girls.
so, if its normal social behaviour to text rather than call, texting is fine.
but as we've learned, be the exception to the rule... which is why i call them every now and then, especially if i dont have a lot of comfort yet.
I think general idea I have behind calling them, or asking them out in person is when your talking to a girl in person she is likely to get caught up in the moment when a guy who supposedly 'knows' what to say is asking her to "hang out" regardless of if she has a boiffend or not.
however the problem i've had with this in my past is (yah im talking about my goddamn oneitis again) whenever your talking to her she will simply be enchanted by what your saying and make impulsive decisions regaurdless of her boyfriend.
you see the paradox here?!?
yes you get a "yes" but you may end up with a girl who only likes you when you are around! Never calls or texts (beyond responding to yours),
however, when you text her, she can take as lonnng as she wants to respond. she can make a pie chart weighing the pros and cons of going out with you yada yada and her thinking is YOUR enemy. you want her feeling even if its just the sound of your voice. but at least she is less likely to have a boyfriend.
the only reason i think i got a yes was because i got her feeling.