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PostPosted: Sun Jun 21, 2015 4:15 pm 
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I met a 6/10 last Sunday while running day game at a grocery store. I spent about 10-15 minutes talking to her, got her #, and said I would call her in a few days to set up a date after asking her availability.

Well, I called her last Tuesday night around 8:30pm. She didn't answer her phone, so I left a quick viocemail telling her to call me back. About 5 minutes later, I got this text (using a different name):

"John! I saw you called, but I'm out with friends at the moment. How are you doing?"

I replied with,

"good good, I just got home from XYZ activity. do you want to hang out later in the week?"

She never responded back to my text. Everything I've read about texting is that you want to go into logistics asap, and save the conversation for the date. I'm not sure where/if I went wrong here. I get the feeling she was just being fickle and decided to change her mind. In the future, I'm only going to ask her out over the phone or in person. I do not have a good track record with texting.


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PostPosted: Sun Jun 21, 2015 4:39 pm 
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I met a 6/10 last Sunday while running day game at a grocery store. I spent about 10-15 minutes talking to her, got her #, and said I would call her in a few days to set up a date after asking her availability.

Well, I called her last Tuesday night around 8:30pm. She didn't answer her phone, so I left a quick viocemail telling her to call me back. About 5 minutes later, I got this text (using a different name):

"John! I saw you called, but I'm out with friends at the moment. How are you doing?"

I replied with,

"good good, I just got home from XYZ activity. do you want to hang out later in the week?"

She never responded back to my text. Everything I've read about texting is that you want to go into logistics asap, and save the conversation for the date. I'm not sure where/if I went wrong here. I get the feeling she was just being fickle and decided to change her mind. In the future, I'm only going to ask her out over the phone or in person. I do not have a good track record with texting.
I think your feelings are correct about her changing her mind. However, you assisted in allowing her to change her mind. Get her to commit to a day(same day or next if possible) right there and then and worry about logistics later. Don't wait a few days to contact her because the peak of your attraction is in her presence. Attraction fades over time.

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PostPosted: Sun Jun 21, 2015 7:53 pm 
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I disagree with the guys saying that texting is only for logistics and that you should save the conversation for the date.

The truth of the matter is; unless you've established a firm emotionally connection with the girl either during your approach, a phone call, or an elaborate text conversation she will flake the majority of the time. Calling for a great options so salute you for that, but in the future don't even propose a date until you get the connection solidified. Its a waste of time and a waste of a girl.

I think you're set to give her another call later on if you want, but if she doesn't answer, chalk it up and move on with your life.

Make those connections man. She needs to get a "sense" that she'll have a good time with you while she's out with you and a phone call is a perfect way to do that. If you can talk to a girl for 30 mins on the phone, you'll have no problem mingling with her on the date so long as you're attracted to.

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You don't have to take 6's on dates. Get them on the phone for a hour and you can set up a date for them to come to your house to watch movies, and order take out. You don't have to take any girl on a date in 2015, but definitely not 6.

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PostPosted: Sun Jun 21, 2015 8:16 pm 
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Not having lengthy conversation over text is generally good advice for hardcase newbies. It's a matter of quality over quantity. The point is not to slip into meaningless smalltalk.

Eddie is right, you need an emotional connection. Whether you do it via small light fun texts or longer interesting conversation is up to you. It's just that it's easier to fuck up if you go long without knowing what you're doing.

Read my texting guide if you wanna improve that aspect of your game.

PS: there are no rules written in stone . Just guidelines. Take everything with a grain of salt.

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