This is ridiculous, I learn to work with my approach anxiety and I consider myself to be fairly confident despite the fact that I am not where I personally want to be with girls. I keep my composure when around girls, I flirt, try to not reveal so much about myself, and I am sincere but not in a wimpy way. However I seem to be getting more attention for the girls I wouldn't go for than the cute ones. The frustrating thing about this is that I treat all girls the same no matter how hot they are so I guess, according to some of my close friends, I am that guy that a woman would rather marry and show to her family than hook up with or date. The reason why my buddies say that about me is because they see me as the cool/mature guy/well dressed and one who is smart and goes for his goals, but then again can that be why I have been single and not be able to date the beautiful girls? my goal is to attract and date the girls of MY choice not the ones who like to use these great guys or the ones who are prude/nerdy and unattractive. I was at a community college before and now will be transferring off to a 4 year university lets see what happens there. My biggest pet peeve is how people tell me to "not worry" and "she'll come" nothing will happen all of a sudden lol

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21 year old
Virgin
Student Cadet (Va.Tech)
Poli Sci Major

I suspect people tell you you're "mature" as a nice way of saying "boring". There is nothing about maturity that kills or prevents sexual attraction. Well dressed and intelligent are both huge pluses. Without those two, I'd be in bad shape with women.

Also, stop talking to people about this. A problem with a community college is it's quite small. Not much bigger than a high school. So one reason no girl wants to date you, is probably because she knows no other girl has dated you. Things should be better at uni, but don't talk about having girl problems with people you meet there. If you need to vent, do it with the people back home.

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You may think that you treat all girls the same, but in reality you most likely project a subtly different attitude toward women you're attracted to an women you're not attracted to.

Since you're not attracted to these less attractive girls, you feel more freedom from the outcome. You don't care what happens. Things run more smoothly, things feel more natural.

On the flip side, you might actually be a little worried about whether or not things work out between you and the girls you're attracted to. It's only natural.

Pickup artistry teaches you to have an abundance mentality so that you feel freedom from the outcome with attractive women just like you feel with unattractive women.

However, you say that you treat all women the same. Well, attractive women don't have to express their interest in men and pursue men in order to hook up with and date them! They get hit on all the time. Unattractive women, however, feel more of a need to take the initiative and thus will give you more attention.

Therefore, you need to actually treat the women you're interested in differently in a certain way. Not differently in the sense that you should care about the outcome, but differently in the sense that you should take the initiative in seducing them.

Based on what you've written I can tell that you're not a very aggressive guy. Try being more aggressive yet remain unattached to the outcome.

she doesn't know that no girl has dated me. I don't whine about my failures to girls if that is what you think. I think its because cc's are where people just go there to focus on themselves and leave after two years.

When you say aggressive do you mean more masculine? if so that is how I portray myself.

No, I met several girls who were up for casual stuff while going to CC. And my CC was downright tiny. 900 total students, day and night classes, as well as online. I think at any given time of day, there were maybe 250 people at school.

Anyway, if you're interested in a girl, how do you let her know that? How many girls have you asked to do something with after class?

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They can smell that you're not that into them= attraction

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No, by aggressive I mean more proactive.

I would suggest hitting the weights if you don't already.

You probably do treat all the girls the same. And the way you treat them is not attraction-building, but your looks are enough for the ugly girls and the non-attraction-building you do builds comfort, so you're setting yourself up for a lot of ugly girls liking you and hot girls thinking you're boring or nice.

No worries, I was far worse than you when I started (virgin til 23). Been making up for it hardcore since.

You need to learn to break rapport. Check out this post I wrote about it if you want hotter girls to like you: http://chrisharders.com/game-topics/spa ... g-rapport/

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