I have been told to go out more, live life, gain experience....
I am a boring guy and the only place I know is the library

How do I "go out"? where do I go? I hate clubs because the music is so loud you cant talk to anyone. not sure about bars, my whole life I have been to one bar and I just didn't like it.

I want to go to a place where girls EXPECT to be approached. I have tried sarging at the mall or on the street, but I have not been successful because people think it's weird, they don't expect it.

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There are so many different kinds of bars.

Like music? Go to a venue.

Like video games? Go to a Bar-cade.

Like dressing up and drinking good drinks in a chill SPAM? Go to a speak-easy!

Also, join some local activities. Dodgeball leagues, Kickball leagues, whatever you're into, there is probably something for you!

Check out meetup websites. Search things you like to do and join a group.

Hope this helps, man!

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Based on those 2 sentences, you have to learn two things:

1. Approach invitation cues.

2. Physical displays of sexual attractiveness.

Once you have addressed those two seduction components, it doesn't matter where you sarge.

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What both of them said.

And to that, I'll add online dating. Find a girl, pray the pictures are real and you are not gaming a 120kg shemale, chat her up a bit and set up a date on a place of your liking.

About Hellhound's advice on what you need to learn, I can only say it's true. I'll give you two exemples from back in the day. A few years back, when Gran Turismo 4 was released, there was a demonstration stand at my local department store with a playstation and LCD TV set up on a racing seat with one of those steering wheel and pedal kits. Manning the stand was a very, very, very hot strawberry blonde about my age. An absolute 10 and still to this day on the top 5 of the hottest girls I've seen. I sat down to try the game, did a lap on Nurburgring, got up and hanged around checking the other players. The girl came talk to me and stared making small talk, and I was like "O.K... She's doing her job. The other guys in the stand are ghetto kids and elementary school children, so if someone here will buy the game it will be me." I chatted with her for a bit and turned away. A few years later when I started reading into IOIs and body lenguage, well, I honestly felt the urge to punch myself in the stomach for being such a thick dumbass. She was so into me it was just ridiculous how I did not see it. Some time later, I was at a book store and a girl (also good looking and kinda cute in a nerdy way) was constantly checking me out. Again, that was a shot I missed due to insecurity and not reading the signs.

That being said, I also have a chronycal aversion to clubs. Between the loud (and of poor taste) music, the drunken guys acting out, someone spilling a drink on my tailor made suit and the obscene amount of time you spend waiting for it to pick up the pace (when clubs are "starting to get good" is about the time I am ready to leave), well, clubs are about the last place I want to be in. Bars are good, if you pick the right spot, other than that, lounges are also great. Kinda like a bar but more refined and civilized. It is also a more relaxing enviroment, wich somewhat lowers the bitch shield. Books, DVD and Videogame stores are great, too. You just have to know a bit about what you are talking to make an inersting, seemingly casual, conversation.

I was once at a bookstore and noticed a cute girl with a book about painting. Walked up to the same bookself, picked a book and "casually" peeked over her soulder. Luckily she was reading about a painting I was familierized with. I made a remark about that painting showing I know about that stuff and we started talking. Turns out she was a sudant of arts history who painted on her spare time. I said something in the lines of "I would like to see your work, do you have any pics on your phone" She said she had only a few but she had a page on deviantart.com. I gave her my phone and told her to save the link for it on my favourites. I checked out her paintings (not half bad, in fact) and followed the link to her facebook page. Sent her a friend request "We met at the bookstore and had an intersting discussion about Thomas Cole. Just checked out your page and I really like your work". She accepted my friend request, we chated some more and I mentioned "hey, have you seen the *artist* exhibit?" It was a temporary exhibit in a museum in our town. She hadn't, I invited her, she accepted, I timed it so that we would leave the museum around dinner time and said "Hey, it's getting late, wanna grab something to eat?" Then I "casually" picked a spot near the town's main square where a video mapping show was on. It was SPAM so this was also a temporary thing. I mentioned it, she was intersted, I held her close to me because it was cold and we were outside, so it was damn good kino right there, and we ended up in my place for the night. Great girl, great talk, a fun date with sex in the end and not a club in sight. Just to show you just have to play your cards right. You said it, you are a library guy and intelligence is hot. Work with that.

Direct, cold approaches on the street are gut-wrenching. You can be handsome, tall, have a date in 30 minutes with someone already lined up, and you will still be completely ignored frequently. And that hurts no matter how long you've been doing it. Don't let it mess with your head bc in between the lows you will get very interested girls. All you need is a few unattached hotties out of dozens of approaches to build some leads for future dates. When you're out on dates, it snowballs. You get more numbers when you're out.
Most people start out with some newbie missions or canned material on average girls to build confidence. On nightlife streets there are always targets. In Europe a lot of youths hang out in squares.

Good post @Majikal.

Anyway, I was going to make a similar post like this thread. One of the things that frustrates me the most is the lack of hot chicks in places other than clubs. I remember something David DeAngelo said that clubs are just places to get practice on approaching women because, for the most part, they're sausage fests. He's sort of right about the sausage fests, so I've also wondered what other places I can go to pick up women, although some Master PUA will just say "anywhere".

School is a good place, but I'm in my 30s now and enrolling in some courses is out of the question due to my line of work (I travel for business) so online classes is the best I can do.

Malls are not too bad of a place, but that's kiddie stuff. Probably only a handful of single grown women (25 is my target).

Airports can be alright in my line of work, but I rarely see many women that catch my eye. It's definitely not how the movies make it out to be. Maybe I'm just picky?

My next target is a karaoke bar. Interested to see what that crowd is like. I just want to find a spot where women tend to outnumber the guys (no lesbian bars or male strip clubs), but don't we all, huh? Ok, that's my AFC rant for the day.

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This.

The devil is in the details. Learn to be more detail-oriented especially with the nonverbals and you'll be good.

Follow Majikal's advice as well. You need to fix your vibe and Majikal's approach is one solid piece of golden elephant shit that you can take to the Federal Reserve Bank vault. Clean your fucking ass as squeaky clean as possible. Use a toothbrush to get some of those tomato seeds out.

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This is fucking beautiful. A perfect example of how to adapt to the situation at hand.

Despite my AFC post above, I thought I'd share one place with potential.

Dance classes (Salsa or whatever)

I met one of my ex-gfs at one, she worked as an admin for the school. Apart from that, you don't have to go to a school, per se'. One of my friends found an inexpensive dance class online (I'm certain there are some on Groupon) that was taught at a variety of night clubs before the clubs opened to the public, early in the night. The classes were pretty decent. He asked me to give him a ride to the class one time and I noticed there was a good mix of guys and girls there. They would have a portion of the class where the instructors were teaching everybody, then later on they would split people up in partners (where you can get some alone time with the ladies) and would have the guys move on to the next partner (and so on and so on...).

In addition, the instructors are often looking for more clients, so they sometimes get cool with you and invite you out to clubs to showcase their skills and offer people their services. If you get pretty decent (I'm certain even if you're not that good also), they may invite you to dance competitions to represent their "school" which could lead to more social gatherings for you and the potential to meet even more women.

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Thank you, sir. That one was the crown jewel of my PUA career so far.

Other good place is a yoga class or a nail salon. I never tried either one myself due to lack of interest in either of the activities, but not only girls far outwight guys (chances are you will probably be the only dude there) the theory is that if you hang around in that sort of enviroment without being gay, you are confident and alpha as fuck.

I've never tried either of those, but I am seriously considering yoga. One of my friends takes yoga classes with his wife and he says that every girl is hot as hell, and there's only one other guy there and he is ugly as fuck but all the girls flock to him just because there's no other guys there. It seems like it would almost be too easy.

Yeah, that is precisely what I've been hearing.

Yoga is good
Volunteer work, dog park, animal shelter
(she automatically thinks you're a good guy b/c she associates this with being a good guy)

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Correct, but too damn much work just to get laid.