There's this girl at the mall...Ever heard a story start that way that didn't turn into one-itis?

Well, now you have. She's too young for me to consider an exclusive long term relationship with (she's 19), and she's also far too idealistic for my tastes. Oh, yes, be a plastic surgeon who only works on people who "need" it. However...when my choices are "spend time with a cute chick" or "Don't spend time with a cute chick", well, I'll take the "spend time" one. Not that I plan to lead her on or anything.


The short story:
She works at a framing store, and I chatted her up a bit at the beginning of the month. No more than 5-10 minutes. A couple weeks later I was walking by the store she works in again and chatted with her for a good 20 minutes. I made quite a few mistakes, mostly because I was willing to listen to her and didn't really try to get anything in myself. I didn't bother pushing for any kind of close, since I know where she works, though I'm fairly sure I could have at least gotten a number.

My mistakes: I ignored most of her shit tests, and just acted like she hadn't said anything. I didn't escalate any kind of kino, though she was giving me IOI's. I turned around and said bye when I was leaving because she took a phone call, though she did smile and wave back. I didn't establish any kind of anchor, for next time.

Her shit tests were kind of qualifying me on the 2nd approach. "I'm not ready for a boyfriend" when I hadn't brought up relationships before that...and then "all my other boyfriends were jealous of me talking to other men...you would be too" (while playing with her hair)

I'm not sure how I'll approach her again, yet. I don't want to seem like I'm only going into the shop to talk with her, though, well, that's really the only reason. I'm thinking that I'll open it with "Hey, I have this picture here that I need to sell. If I gave it to you, could you frame it and sell it?" (The picture in question is a stick figure scene drawn on a post-it note while I was bored at work)

My other thought is to just walk by and pop in to say "hi" and then leave.

Any thoughts on improving my next approach?

Ignoring her shit tests where a good move. By not responding to them
made you different in her eyes right there. That's one of the right moves
to do during shit tests.

With what you have written, it sounds to me as though she wants to be
your girlfriend, otherwise she wouldn't be giving you all those signals
and telling you about past boyfriends. Next time she brings up past
boyfriends, just tell her that you don't wanna hear about her past.
That's in the past, and what matters right now is you and her in the
present, and all the fun that you two can have... That's all that she
should be concerned about.

Next time you are in the store, tell her that you want to take her
somewhere. Don't tell her when she asks you where. Keep her in
suspense. Keep her curiosity going. Tell her that you will pick her up
after she gets off work and to be ready cause you are not going to wait
around on her.

She should be ready to go when you get there or she cannot go.

Then leave the store. (You should have a place to take her of course).


Your post has me a little confused. Are you, or aren't you a plastic surgeon???

Don't really matter. The point is this. If you ARE a plastic surgeon, then
you should have no problem getting ANY girl that you want. But seeing
how you want this one... I'm offering you the advice that has helped me
out many of times. And I am just a regular JOE with a regular job, and
vehicle.


Hope this helps you out.

Well it sounds like she was intrested in you. Also it dosnt sound like u messed up real bad where u cant open again.

First for the shit test the first one about the boyfriend i would say just blowin it off would work fine ex "thats cool". the second one i think i would hav said something like "i dont think we would work out im way to high maintence for u" or since that really isnt orginal a simple "na i wouldnt be jealous" would work.

All this is behind you anyways so for your next visit i like what you came up with or you could just walk in and ignore her and wait for her to interact with you and play it like you dont remember her ex. HB "hey i remember you" YOU "do i no you" etc. Dont do it to long are she will think you have alzheimer's or something. That open may not work if there is more than just her workin there.

After that maybe a quick funny story and i think for you it will be pretty easy to number close. a simple we should meet up somewhere sometime and continue are conversation. Wait for response, if good get her number.

Good luck hope your able to get somewhere with it.

I think you need to try something different, and less normal. I dunno what your original opener was but your not in even a2 from the sounds of things. A hired gun is supposed to give you fake IOIs. I start with a hook from my private collection. Then I qualify her and build kino. You have to seperate yourself from the crowd my friend, and let her become comfortable with the sexual side of you. I wish I could have actually seen this interaction, because I want to know if she is really into you. Try to isolate this girl for a second and kiss close her see what happens. If you can get her attracted enough to forget she's working then you can bounce her for a few quick moments to kiss and number close.

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That's what she's going to college for.

The second time I came into the store she opened me by asking where my friend was (it was me another other guy the first time), then she asked me why I was dressed up (had a dress shirt on, while the first time I had a t-shirt). Both of those I'm fairly sure I passed. She went off into a story about how she likes to dress up sometimes, and how she wanted to dress up for halloween but her friends couldn't go out.

Seeing how this situation was around October (halloween). When exactly was the last time that you talked to this girl...

About her talking about wanting to dress up for halloween, it seems to me as though she was wanting to do what EVERYONE likes to do... talk about themselves.

How about next time you walk in there to "not talk to her" ask her a question about herself, not something sexual, even if she brings it up.

Something that is "non-intimidating", and then work from that. And when she's talking to you, giving you her answer, cut her off and start telling her something FUNNY that happened to you today. And if she gets involved in YOUR situation, then you know that you have her almost hooked and you need to escalate the conversation and direct it to where you want it to go.

Hit on some subjects and watch to see if she gets interested in any of the subjects that you bring up... If she does, then stay on that subject and keep it interesting. Otherwise you risk losing her.

And when the situation starts to get really good... She's REALLY involved in the conversation... say you gotta go get back to your friends at another store. DO NOT stay even if she begs for you to stay, or even if shes says some bull$hit to try and get you to stay.

Tell her that you would really like to continue talking with her at another location... like, maybe (here's a cliche) coffee or tea at a local starbucks.


Like I've said before... just throwing some stuff out for ya to work with.