There is this girl I was chasing for awhile (I say was because she agreed to go to my school formal) this was all about a week ago I asked her out. (The Formals in about 13 days) I’ve known girl for awhile, but never really talked because I wasn’t interested. so I started talking to her and getting rides to and from stuff with her until I asked her out. Now my mates all say I need to ask her out again before my formal because I haven’t had much one-on-one time with her and it could be awkward otherwise, but here’s the catch. Like most teenagers I’m on some social network site (Facebook), and I sent her a message a few nights ago because I didn’t talk to her the night before that at a thing because she was with some friends. So she replies that night, and I reply later that night. It was all feeling good and everything, until she stops writing back to me. And it’s not just that it’s been three days, but it’s been this long, and, 1. I’ve seen her online, and 2. She’s being commenting a few other guys and 3. I reckon I’ve been a bit clingy. Now I don’t think I’ve been overly clingy at all, just a bit ‘eager’ to talk to her. Same thing??
I’m confused as hell, I thought this thing got easier once you actually asked them out, because she’s been telling her friends she’s really happy and excited, but she seems to be blowing me off now.
Ideas/Advice/Opinions?
Thanks a heaps in advance.

Clingy vs. Eager

Based on how you described your behaviour they are the same. You said, " I sent her a message on facebook because I didn't talk to her the night before. " So she replies back and then you reply back. Then she stops talking. " Based on what you are telling me. You are eager to see her and that's understandable, I'm sure she's a great person. However, I think you may be DLVing yourself some by talking to her so much. Wait it out a few days (3-4) and then invite her out to tag along with you and your friends. She'll be more receptive to you.

J SMOOTH

^Thanks for that.
So I'm thinking of asking her to see a movie with me and a friend, and then telling her my friend has to work, and is she still interested. I think it would be an easy way to tell what she's thinking, but I'm open to comments/suggestions.

Edit- Told my friend my idea, he said it's a shit idea. His words.

The reason I say invite her out, when you are already out with friends is for this reason. If she rejects you, then you say, "No big deal, I got to get back to my friends, later." Where as otherwise she shot you down, and she knows you're now sitting at home alone. That's the difference in the social proof of that statement.

For your example, I'd call her when I'm already out doing stuff. Hey me and my friends are going to catch a movie, do you want to tag along? Yes, cool we're at blah blah blah, see you soon. When she arrives, my friends got bored and went to that new place whatever, or went into an earlier show.

I typically don't like inviting a girl to the movies. It's like a wasted hour. You're sitting there and you can't talk. You can't keep building comfort. Sure you can light kino and kiss but that's it. Also, it's hard to do that if A) She's really into the movie B) You haven't done it already C) she might not be comfortable with you yet.

I like the movies too but prefer to invite her out to shop, eat, workout, just about anything that can let us talk.

You'll be fine!

J SMOOTH

yea always invite when already out with friends. i think it shows that youre a fun person to be around and makes her want to spend more time with you. and worst case scenario if she says no you reply aww thats too bad well i gotta get back to my friends maybe next time.
as for the movie thing i only go to movies with friends. feel like bowling, pool, bars and shopping are better places to go.

Hey thanks, I was having a couple of really down days, just alot of different bad shit all happening at once.
So things are going pretty good, but I'm terrible at reading things, MPB to an extent, and was wondering if anyone had any tips on giving some small IOI's and what IOI's to look for that don't involve Kino.
And then how to engauge in light Kino without appearing touchy/sleezy.