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Do you want something with her again? Is she a healthy person to be involved with, or a headwind in your life?
Anger is a secondary emotion, often times masking sadness, for example, which is more of a primary feeling.
Her having incidental contact is a way to keep the attachment alive. It doesnt mean you two are capable of having a health relationship, or that she necessarily wants one per se.
Likely you were the pursuer and she was the withdrawer in the relationship, if i went solely on a hunch.
Sounds to me you want to know what her motives are.
It very well could be the case of sadness creeping underneath it all. She's not a healthy person to be with, for me anyway. Wouldn't want to go back.
Yes I'd love to know what her motives are. I can live without knowing at the same time, as long as she just leaves me alone and I can keep on enjoying my life without this negative influence. Maybe one day I could treat her with less hostility but I don't see it happening anytime soon.
I'd say she was the pursuer and I was the withdrawer for the most part of the relationship. When we broke up it was the other way around though.
I'd look at this more, specifically why you're sad...what need(s) aren't being met that are fueling this feeling. You say you want to know her motive on one hand, yet are on indifferent on the other-there's a paradox there, which is it?
To be honest I'd rather be sad and not know why than get back into the place where I , as little as cared, about her and what she does.
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I'd say she was the pursuer and I was the withdrawer for the most part of the relationship. When we broke up it was the other way around though.
Funny how that happens.
In my defence - it was my first SERIOUS relationship. I needed that experience to not let it happen again and mature in that sense.
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I'd say she was the pursuer and I was the withdrawer for the most part of the relationship. When we broke up it was the other way around though.
Funny how that happens.
Yep. When the polarity shifts, pull back or it's dump time.
As said before, wasn't aware of that at the time but I agree.
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Fuck all this niceness..if there was another dude there is no SPACE for nicenes! Simple as that! Fuck all this baloney about emotional self-control.
The next time she attempts to start a conversation , just tell her " Listen ,I have no interest in talking to you in ANY manner , friends or not. Don't contact my family. Don't stalk me around the gym. Don't keep trying to edge your way back into my life. I am in no shape or form interested ok?"
And in the meanwhile you better prepare yourself to fuck other girls,you've just cut ties with her, one-itis is coming...
Well, I don't want to get stuck in the spiral of hatred as I do not need these kind of emotions influencing my life. I just communicated it to her and it's case closed. Don't need to prepare to fuck other girls - I've already done so. She's not worth one-itis!
Thank you gentlemen, case closed.