I'm meeting an HB9 for the third time very soon and have built a great
rapport with her, spent approx 10 hours with her so far.
This girl is comfortable with me and the few times I have called (or she has called me), she has been very responsive.

Have kissed this girl and lots of Kino but no sex yet (although we have talked and joked about sex stuff which I take is a good sign)

The questions I have are what kind of contact should I be having with her between dates, if any.
I get the impression that it's best to avoid contact in order to demonstrate that your a busy guy and your time is precious.
Does this still apply at this stage once you have built such a good rapport or should it be toned down a little to make way for sms flirting, etc. I knew the girl a little before hooking up with her too.
I do find myself wanting to text cheeky little sms messages to her whenever we havent had contact for a few days but usually stop myself thinking that I don't want her to know she's on my mind.
Is this right or is that only for the early stages?

Also, once on the date, should I be still be using negs, push/pull? Or should I be a bit more relaxed and just show her my true self (which is a cocky, funny but also genuine nice kinda guy (I hope!) - nothing to heavy).

Any help much appreciated.
K

Right, sounds like you have come a long way with this girl. Cudos!:D

You should definitely keep contact with her between meetings. You want to make yourself a part of her everyday life. Call her just to tell her something funny that just happened to you, see a movie she told you she liked, call her and tell her your thoughts about it. This is great for building comfort and trust.

You can still come in as a popular and busy guy, by always throwing in a time constraint, "I have to get back to my friends, I just have to tell you some funny shit that just happened..etc.".

-Cheek

i agree with cheek...keep in touch with her...try some texting games with her send her sum funny shit she will like it....good job man...

Just a little point:

The contact you maintain and initiate between dates also acts to steer the relationship to its end destination, ranging from 'exclusive to each other' to 'friends with benefits'. So when deciding what contact you are going to initiate bear in mind what kind of relationship you ultimately want with this girl.

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Great advice!

If you are looking for more of a friends with benifits sort of thing, then friendly messages and talk about stuff you would to a friend when things come up, but don't be talking to her all the time, or she will feel like you are looking for more and when you hang out and it's appropriate, then sexual escalation.

If you are looking for a fuck buddy, then the only time you're gonna be calling/texting them, is to send some flirty sexual stuff, or to arrange to hook up.

If you are looking for a relationship, but something not exclusive and highly serious, then text/phone if you don't talk for a couple days and discuss things that you would on a date with her, or that you did/will discuss on a date. Keep it light and fun, but don't forget to flirt and keep some sexual tension so that she is anticipating the next time you can get together/call, because you won't be talking to her ALL the time, just every second or third day if you've got the time, but there are always exceptions and times when you may be bored and have some time to kill, so it's fine to chat for a bit then, just don't make a habit of it. When things get routine, then that's when it becomes more like a serious exclusive relationship.

As I said, if you want serious and exclusive, then contact is gonna be more frequent, at least every second or third day, in some cases more than once a day is acceptable. I had a girl that would text me while she was at work and I would respond, she would call me on her way home and at night as well, but that was only because we were exclusive.

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