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I think its a slippery slope too, you don't want to nervously look away obviously. I think EC is one of those things that has to be learny and well calibrated. It's hard to find concrete rules governing EC.
No way! not nervously. What I'm saying is look for long enough, smile, wait for her to smile then be the first to look away. That way you've captured her attention. If she becomes the first to look away she can think "right there's this guy looking at me, and could quite possibly still be looking the next time I look in that direction", then she's the one in control of whether she wants to look back again or not. Where as if you are the first to look away after holding EC for long enough the roles are reversed, she will be more inclined to want your eyes to meet again.
Something that I falied to mention and maybe should have stressed this in my original post is to do this when you are talking to somebody else or looking at something i.e. an item in a shop. Everything I've said so far doesnt really relate to looking at her and just looking away into the distance. What I failed to mention was that your attention is on something else (talking, products, a news paper etc), you catch her eye now your attention is on her, you smile hold the EC for long enough, then be the first to look away back to what it is you are doing, now she is under the impression that she captured your attention because she is interesting, then the fact you are looking back at what ever it is you are doing while she returns EC makes her subconciously feel like what ever it is you are doing is more interesting then her, she then will want to fight to get your attention back on her as ultimately she wants to be more interesting then what ever it is that had the audasity to snatch your attention from her.
It's hard to explain, all I'm saying is try it. Its more of a subconcious thing than anything else. I've noticed an increase in EC from it.