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k-loc thanks for the advice man you have been very helpful.
another rookie question for you. when you open a set and neg your target, which she responds to how do you start building attraction?
First of all, you dont
need to negg your target. Many guys dont even get the purpose behind this idea and are wondering afterwards " what went wrong... i mean i negged her and everything.. "
Im actually writing an E- Book called " The Attraction Escalation Ladder System "
There are two kind of attraction:
1) Fist class attraction
2) Deeper attraction
This first one called " first class attraction " is based on your bodylanguage/ behaviour, vocal dominance and looks.
These are the factors that make them first " attracted " to you when you are opening the set. BUT, because these factors in it self aint aiming deeper, it cannot form a stable bond between you two because she hasnt " invested " to you in a much more deeper level. There is no deeper connection between you two but this still is a great foundation for your future game. Your bodylanguage and vocal dominance are the foundation of your future interaction because they cover her two major senses ( her visuality and ability to hear you ).
The second one called " Deeper attraction " is based on much more deeper level. This is where she starts investing you emotionally and due to this, she has to re- consider if she is thinking about flakeing you later on. For example take a glance at your relationship with your best mate. I bet you guys share some stuff that bonds you two to each other in a whole different level when compared to a stranger.
So what do you need before you can create this deeper connection?
You need a good level of comfort to create effective rapport ( + always remember kino because she is getting used to you touching her and boosts her level of comfort and rapport when built up right. )
Comfort= Feeling safe, eliminateing the risks and anxities
After this its easier for you to create rapport when she is physically and mentally relaxed= she can communicate with you inside her comfortzone.
So what im trying to say here is that Deeper attraction is built from the inside and there fore emotionally investing is really important. Your outer glam may not have enough power to tie you two together nor prevent her flakeing you.
Also, i highly recommend that you use Jugglers 90-10 rule. It means that when you are opening your set, you need to do the " leading " part which means talking ( you do the 90% and she 10 % ). When you enter the set, her surroundings chance which is causing a small level of " shock " inside her head. Due to this, you need to be dominant ( mindset, not physically ) and take the leader place and contribute more to the conversation than usually. She needs time to " recovery " from her minimun level of " shock ". So dont expect her to do the other 50% and you the other 50%.
[ Johnny B ]