Hey man,
I know what you mean that it can be tough to figure out how to kino and where to kino. The main idea is you want to kino early into your interactions and kino often! I included some videos that have helped me and I hope will help you.
In the first Gambler talks about how when he speaks he uses a lot of hand gestures to make it easier to kino with women. In the second video I posted Sinn talks about using the shoulder as a great touching area (around 6 minutes in), pay special attention to that.
Basically, like Gambler I put my hands out in front of me when I talk. It makes it much easier to touch. When I do touch I start touching arms, hands, elbows, shoulders, and back mostly. Then there are some of the more advanced areas that Gambler talks about as well. The key is get in the habit of touching people as you talk, and become that "touchy feely" person if you will.
Hope this helps you out,
~Jon
Gambler
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