You did not say, but judging by your post your early to mid 20's?
No one here will judge you for that, unless of course you are unwilling to make a change and improve yourself. And choose to blame outside input for you lack of skills/confidence blocking your ultimate goal. I see you have the desire to want to change and improve yourself.
As others have stated, that my young friend has to come from within you.
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i always feel so self-conscious that everyone else is judging me when i talk to girls.
Let me shed some dark-light.
Do those that you fear are judging you, pay your bills? Satisfy your companionship needs? Jack you off in the wee hours when your sad and lonely set of blue balls need some relief? Do they have any positive influence in your life at all?
I seriously doubt it.
FUCK THEM!
If you were running from an emergency situation, and you had an anchor tied to your belt, wouldn't you cut that anchor loose?
Cut loose of your anchors, your balls dialed 911 for you and you ended up here.
Now, how can you a virgin learn this? Even if such a young man was able to use game techniques in order to successfully get a woman and bring her back to his apartment, he would probably be clueless what to do next. All of us here remember the first time we had sex and if we are honest with ourselves, we remember how completely clueless we were about it.
I myself was so nervous that I had to have her keep putting it in her for me, I was that clueless.
Start with the newbie challenge.
Top two pointers.
1.If at first you don't succeed, try again, and again, and again, and again, do not reverse your forward momentum. EVER.
2. Don't discriminate, I don’t give a fuck if she's fat, she's ugly, she's 40 years old, get over that first hump Bro.
Remember your balls dialed 911, they could care less what the rescue girl looks like.