I think Hotu hit the nail on the head in the first sentence, she wants a deeper connection (sex pun). The simplest way in my opinion is to get her talking about herself to you, her hopes/dreams etc; but you have to genuinely be interested in what she has to say, none of this "yeah", "yeah", "that's cool", "sound interesting", ask her to tell you more about what she talking about, for example "that's awesome you want to be a singer! When did you start getting interested in music?" obviously tailor the words to the conversation but you see what I mean, you are indicating you've listened to her and are now showing a voluntary attempt to learn more about her, also the more she tells you about herself, the more comfortable she'll feel with you and the more connected she'll feel towards you because she's investing her inner thoughts with you.
Skip to about 7:30 in this video
Click Me the comedian is talking about his daughter saying "Why?" to every answer he gives after she asks him why it's raining, obviously it's not something to follow literally but it is funny how quickly he starts talking about his childhood and stuff, as well as just being funny haha.