You have a principle called "Commitment and Consistency" working against you at the moment. It's like you've dug out a pretty deep groove for a river of lame to pass through. (Source:
Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini).
In order to overcome this, you'll need to use the principles from Maxwell Maltz's book
Psycho-Cybernetics to overcome the self-image that you've established--both in your perception and hers. In other words, you need to adjust the specimen that's under the double microscope--with you as the first microscope and her as second.
Once you pick up a copy of that book (or just read it through Scribd in the link below), you can shoot me a PM for more advice on how to REALLY apply what he suggests (there's a way to speed up his process by at least 200%).
Let me know if this helps, Bro. You're amazing regardless of what's happened until now.
Your Bro,
Aaron.
(Here's the link:
http://www.scribd.com/doc/24987697/Maxw ... ybernetics)