Iman, the "I like older men" comment is bullshit but it has gotten to your head already ("since i look kinda young"). “I don’t like guys with earrings” it’s the same shit, it’s a test. Never go against your own thing, remain as you are. If you like earrings wear them, if she doesn’t like them she can fuck off.
You’ve probably done something that turned her off beforehand and she feels as though you’re better off being just her “friend”.
PrettyBoy41: I don’t think it’s disinterest they want. She wants you to want her just like you want her to want you. It’s the options that are the killer. If she sees that you’re not too attached or intimidated she’ll know that you’re aware of the fact that there’s a ton of good looking pussy swimming around just dying to get fucked. You have choice and options; she’s not on a pedestal anymore.
And this whole thing: what’s wrong with having girl-friends, use them as pawns, wing women etc. If they agree to help you with that (I’m against manipulating them into it), most of the time you’ll find they get turned on and will try to get a piece of you.
Usually when a girl wants to “just be friends”, she wants to keep you on bookshelf and use you when she’s bored.
http://www.onlinedatingreviewsnow.com/c ... why-bother a good little article on this topic; there’s a detailed LJBF counter response.
The term friend is thrown around so loosely that is has lost all meaning. There’s a good chance she won’t be there for you when you need her. I don’t know about the rest of you but I’d rather have 1 great friend, than 100 shitty ones.
As far as the: it’s too late once you hear the LJBF, you can always turn a situation around. Most of the time the answer is right in front of you but you’re too blind to see it.
Heartbeat’s reply isn’t that bad at all. If you’re sexually attracted to this chick, why would you put yourself through the torture? You want to bang her, she knows you want to bang her but you’re playing by her rules. She’s leading the relationship.
You could add “I’ve got plenty of friends, I want a companion” or “…I want a lover/I want someone to fuck” etc.