| That just comes from practicing talking to random people. But through asking them what they do for work or study, what they're doing on the weekend, what they did for recent public holiday, where they're going today, etc you can ask the more interesting questions like - "what's the best [insert topic] you've ever done/had?" with her you may dare breach the topic of relationships and ask her if she prefers / likes being single, this will give her a way of informing you whether she is after a serious relationship or just wants things casual. Be careful, if she knows your preference and likes you, she will say what she thinks you want to hear, even if contradictory to her nature, which won't be good.
And another thread to branch into is "what made you decide to do [topic]?" I.e. Job, study, travel etc. Reasons people have for doing thongs often can branch into more of their desires and thing and you can find a common interest.
If she hates her job (sometimes you just got to earn money and can't find something you like - change topics to what would you love to do if you could do anything - this will get her mind into a positive state as she fantasizes about what would be awesome, and you can ask questions about "why" even if you don't find the topic itself interesting. If a girl can't really answer this question, I believe I've found someone who doesn't have enough drive in life to be compatable with me, but that is so rare.
These are things to keep in mind - but you must feel your way through (pua material calls this "calibration" because men like technical concepts) but it's letting the right side of your brain do what it does best - pattern recognition , but subconsiously, which means it's hard to describe, even when rouille you're right - basically all it amounts to is "doing what feels right".
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