Sounds to me like you are afraid of approach, like all AFCs, and this is preventing you from doing it well. Remember, practice makes perfect, and you are too eager to get it right the first times. Learn your IOI's, your posture when approaching (over the shoulder), approach without sexual intent (keep her guessing, which is the part you are overly focused on, and shouldn't be, because she will not freak out unless you are overly aggressive), and progress with asserting it at the right moment (insert sexual comment, observe response - IOI/IOD), calibrate, be funny and memorable (tease if she seems like the type to respond well right away), close the number or gracefully exit. This is like the standard progression of cold approach. Still, I think it helps beginners to look for IOI's BEFORE engaging, and maybe not hit on the hottest girls there (if you are only practicing), which I think is a good idea since you are so terrified of setting off sexual alarms in hot women's heads.
You are right that hot women assume sexual intent on pretty much any approach, and the whole point is that for them it doesn't matter if it is true or not - they will deal with you starting from that premise whatever you do. Less hot girls have lower guards in day game, but pretty much similar ones in night game, where sexual intent is more likely by far. If you want to get better at it, I suggest just closing some numbers on 6-8s, get some confidence and skill, then go for 10 if you feel like it.
There is an exception - if you don't have anyone else to turn to then her, like in total isolation, or when only she has something you need - example: I was out in a different country, Italy, and I overheard these 2 American chicks talking, an 8 and a 9. They had a professional camera, I didn't, and so I asked them to take some pictures of me and the city (we were on this castle on a hill), and e-mail them to me, so closing with one of their e-mail was quite easy, and they had no reason to suspect or blame me of anything, since there was a scarcity of resources which they happened to fill in by accident. If you are smart enough to engineer such situations, or to think some up on the spot, this is helpful in approaching, and in lack of such situations, you have to do it the hard , cold way.
So,for minimal risks I think this guy's approach is helpful, with girls close to your attractiveness level (he's like an 8-9 on looks), if you understand it well:
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Women will tell you a lot with their body language and words. I will approach random women from time to time, but i usually use a technique i call "zero rejection factor"
This technique is applied to eliminate any potential rejections. What i will do ( in any situation...ie bar/club/grocery store/library...park etc.) I will create eye contact by either walking right into them or walking by them, ensuring eye contact , then gesturing with a smile or something. I will then move just slightly out of their direct line of site( staying within their peripheral vision)
As I move slightly more out of their line of site, i am watching them, looking for any conscious or unconscious gesture towards me. ie- a look over, as in where is he going. ( women tend to check out men ONLY when they know they are not looking at them, by staying slightly out of their direct line of site, you can catch them trying to sneak a peek) If i get the appropriate glance/gesture...I will then repeat the process and move to another spot. After successfully doing this 3 times, I will then approach knowing there was some sort of interest or attraction.
This leaves me without any approach anxiety or fear and allows me to approach with confidence. The rest will be totally up to the woman. I will be polite in my approach and try to engage her in conversation.
Here is the thing, not every woman is going to be interested in you. A true Pick up artist knows this and will deal with the situation accordingly. If you remain polite throughout your attempt, and read the body language and words of the woman, you can eliminate any potential embarrassment.
You want to keep it friendly and wait for the signs, if you come on strong at first odds are you will get a strong defensive response.
Basic positive signs include: her giving you complete eye contact as you speak.
laughter and smiling
subtle touches, arm, hand, leg
head tilting
body facing you
Basic negative signs include: looking away as speak/ or during silence
arms crossed
feet pointed away from you
short answers
These are some of the things you look for before attempting the actual seduction.
Generally if you are getting more negative tells then positive, it is wise to keep it short /sweet and move on.
By using this technique it allows you to get out of there fast while still not getting physically rejected. ( allowing your confidence to remain intact)
If all signs are positive, then work your magic, be funny, be witty, the best of it all is you will be confident and confidence is half the battle.
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