The best opinion openers are situational, or personal. I was at a gay bar on saturday night (I'm used to the gay bars in Vancouver, which are filled with tons of single girls that feel safe in the SPAM and so make easy sarges) and we were having trouble telling who was straight and who was a lesbian, so we started polling on how many straight people came to the club and it worked great. Or when I wear my rainbow tuque, I like to ask girls whether they think it makes me look "TOO gay

" and they'll either say, "No, I think it looks good on you" and then generally look me up and down and now I've got an IOI to neg her and build on. Or, what they might do is take it off to see what I look like without it and I keep my hair so short that its got that prickly feel to it and then they usually rub my head and then I've got kino initiated and can tell them to keep their hands off or one of those type of remarks.