Look--yesterday, I came across the limits of my experience, and knowledge. There was this hired gun whom I've had a rocky relationship flirt-wise in the Gym, but she's laughed in our recent interactions. Whilst working out, I saw her seated with a coworker chatting, and I decided to to open and make a joke. Well, it went over well, and I decided to reopen. To do so, so, I tapped her on the shoulder, and wound up startling her.

I may still be outcome dependent, but at least I'm pretty non-reactive, at this point, and said what I was going to. I got a little nervous laugh, at least, but swiftly ejected, and the guy she was with was polite as I did so.

I wish I had the money for an instructor, because, right now, I'm about as like ly to shoot myelf in the foot as anything. Right now, kinoing, I'm learning, can increase discomfort, not allay it. I've freaked out not just this girl by touching her, but another, and I think it's by creeping them out before hand.

Keep in mind, these aren't skittish girls, by my reckoning, but pretty confident ones. Yes, I know, you dont go up behing a girl, b but too the side, but I don't think I was doing anything particular creepy in this case. She had been laughing, but laughter is a mark of tension, and touch can increase it.

I've had to witness it in person to appreciate, I guess.

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Coming from behind and tapping a girl on her shoulder is one of the worst kino that you can do. Approach from the front or side where she can see you before attempting any touch.

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Repetition along with successful feedback over time builds confidence.

From what it looks like, you haven't built up a repertoire of approach experience as of yet.

The best thing you can do is to get out there and just approach some girls. Expect to fall on your face. Fight through the thought of giving up as most guys do when they fall on their face.

The more girls you approach the better you will get. You have to be willing to modify your approach as you go. As you do it, if you don't give up, your confidence will build and the results will follow.

Yea it's happened to the best of us man. I still fuck up so much on the kino and touching thing. I realize their are barriers everyone puts up including chicks and hot ones at that. They need like a defense mechanism because they don't kno who you are or what your intentions are etc. just keep practicing bro and as others have said approach from the side opposed to behind. and try to pick up on body language and other cues/ iois. I personally wait to touch for a bit because I have been slapped and pushed before. timing is everything... Good luck bruh! =] keep us updated on new encounters etc because it's a learning experience for all of us

Yeah, I thought approaching her for the side was okay, but I see I wasn't careful enough.

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