I tried a variation of the personal add above as a response to a girl on plenty of fish, and it seems to work wonders!
we shot a few pointless messages back and forth and then threw it out in the open
her: im fun lol not trouble well only when i drink lol
me: Let me level with you. I think you're fun, interesting, and attractive, and i'm a selfish ***hole. I dont want to be friends, i'm not a nice guy, i'm 6', ridiculously handsome, and more than most girls can handle sexually. If you're unsure of what to say, dont bother responding. I'm looking for a woman who knows what she wants
her:
lol wow that was random haha
but i like a guy that speaks his mind

i know what i want and that sounds like you
none of what i said was my own words, but it seems to work. but what do i say to that? i mean, is she testing me or should i continue acting like an asshole? sometimes acting like an asshole works, but with some girls they stop talking if I play it out too long