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(1)Photos
Ideally you want something with you surrounded by other women and / or partaking in a cool activity like surfing, martial arts, playing an instrument etc. You don’t have to be a surfer or musician necessarily, at this stage we are just trying to get initial interest. If you’re a teen or twenty-something perhaps the best photo would be of you with both arms around two girls holding a beer bottle in each hand.
"Surrounded by women" is a bad move. makes you look like a player, triggers all the defenses associated with that. Women on dating sites are looking for any reason to disqualify you. Arms around two women with a beer, same thing. Best to have ONE woman in the pic, CLOSE to you, but not too intimate. And combine that with doing an interesting activity as BenedictTyler mentioned.
But its still good to have a small handful of pics, say 3-5, with different activities, to appeal to a broader variety of interests. And studies have shown that pics taken with better cameras are ranked as more attractive, so take those cell phone pics OFF. The graininess makes you look bad.
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(3)Beef up your social proof
Another point I like to make is; don’t state you are looking for a relationship. It’s better to put ‘looking for hangout’ or ‘friends’. Stating you are looking for love is a sign of neediness.
This is bumpy territory. I personally believe its better to be honest about what you're looking for. If you're on a dating site, women automatically believe you're looking for dating before they ever read your profile, so its going to come out as cowardly or dishonest to some women if you put hangout or friends, while others are going to interpret it as wanting to start slow. No matter what you put, you're going to be turning off some women, and appealing to others. So you may as well put dating if thats what you want, and start with the advantage of them believing you're genuine and honest about your intentions.
The one thing you probably SHOULDNT put is "sex" or "one night stand" or whatever version of that your site has. The vast majority of women will disqualify you INSTANTLY for that. Only put it if you're looking for prostitutes or an easy lay without regard to quality.
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(4)Get selective
Replace stuff about your hobbies and interests and add in things you want and DON’T want in a woman. For example I always state that ‘time wasters and high maintenance chicks need not apply’. Don’t be afraid of being picky. This displays discerning tastes and is a huge turn on for a woman.
Its important not to go OVERBOARD with this. Its easy to make yourself look like a dick by putting too many selection criteria here, or ones that are too shallow. And women on dating sites are already in "one-strike-you-lose" mode.
ALSO, you NEED stuff about your hobbies and interests in order to make you look human and provide some common ground to start from, not to mention finding women who will actually be fun for you to be with. So DO put SOME hobbies/interests in there.... Make sure you mention some general-appeal things ABOUT your interests, so that women can hook into the good feelings you get from it even if they DONT like the same things.