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I think this reply is awful Ezo. You my boy and all, but I have to disagree with your generic 'all fear posts' response. Firstly we don't need to be calling people pussy's because of their conditioned anxiety responses. Secondly, we wouldn't have the psychiatric community if people could just "get over" their anxieties and maladaptive behaviors. How do you think judging someone for an anxiety is going to help the majority of people with that condition? Will it motivate them or ultimately give them another reason to be anxious and self critical?
Well Hobbit. First off no offense taken.
I might have left out some of the things he need to know in order to deal with his fears. On the other hand I was not actually trying to solve all of his problem at once merely the first step on the way. (Sorry for calling you a pussy man, I was speaking generally to people not facing their fears, no offense meant.)
The OP seeks a way to avoid the problem. He is aware that he has a problem with touching and he wants to deal with it by running from it as long as he can. Now my reason for giving him this strong reply was to make him realize that he has to face his fear sooner or later. He cannot just ignore it and hope the issue will never come up. It is better that he tries and fails now than later.
I think that the only was to deal with a fear like this is to expose yourself to it in small doses at first and then go for bigger and bigger challenges. But first you have to do one thing. Accept your fear. This is what I mean by saying get over it. You have to take the first step, you have to find some inner strength and use that to deal with your fears.
So you see, my post is not about how to break your fear but how to start. You need to accept the fact that it is gonna be painful and scary and you have to be ready to take that! Push yourself beyond your limits. You are still trying to avoid it which means you are making excuses in order to not have to deal with the situation. You are looking for an easy solution. There is none. Realize that and you see that there is only one path. Realize that and you will be ready to start walking it.
If this doesnt help I would recommend a shrink. No offense again I honestly think that many problems require professional help. We here are just guys on a forum, not psychologists.
Hope this clarifies things.
CHAT
... First change the way of thinking and it will be better soon! 
