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What if their advances are aimed at you, what is your reaction then? (Seriously curious, not trying to antagonize here)
No worries, I see it as a genuine question, I'm just comfortable with my sexuality and in my own skin.
It’s only ever happened to me in one specific scenario, when
I took the above mentioned friend to a gay scene so he could 'come out the closet' I was there purely as emotional support with a couple other female friends.
If a random guy came up to me I just maintained my frame and explained why I was there and deflected saying that I was there for my friend and proceeded to introduce them both (almost like merging sets).
This part is on speculation, but if this happened in a scenario where I wasn’t expecting approaches from men and I didn't have that deflection I needed, I would just let him know where he stands (politely) and state your orientation and that you’re not interested. If that doesn’t get the message across, then start freezing him out (turn your back on him) unless he is persistent that would probably be enough.
this is all very well, but my point being -what if your homosexuality is 'latent'. that is, it's there but you're just not conscious of it...yet.
you might very well have convinced yourself and others that you went to a gay bar as emotional support but what if unconsciously you went because deep down your homosexuality was trying to get
you to 'come out of the closet'...?
I appreciate your question but I genuinely have no better answer to give you other than I know realistically in my current mindset that it just would never happen - as said before I'm comfortable with my own sexuality.
That being said, I also wouldn’t be giving out advice on
how I would handle and disarm an approach from a guy without going all AFC about it such being verbally offensive to him or resorting to violence. I also wouldn't be posting any advice on this site if it was something I’d actually be unwilling to do myself – Again, this has
never happened to me in a regular everyday scenario as I purposely put myself in that situation for the sake of my friend, but I also told my friend I wouldn't be willing to do that again in a hurry as I was extremely bored, but he appreciated what I did for him.
I didn't have a lot to talk about when I was there without story telling (which in turn I'd be DHV myself) so I avoided it.
Later that night we all went to the regular strip where all our usual clubs are and the night picked up for me.
The female form is desirable to me and I want a larger ratio of high calibre
women in my life, I make no apologies or excuses for that - It’s the whole reason why I joined this site.
Literally a few months ago, if somebody pointed out one of the best looking women in the room and told me I actually had a chance with her I'd have laughed in their face, now with the coaching of the PUA community I know that this is certainly obtainable if you apply yourself correctly.