I've made some observations about raising your standards.. and it's quitte funny how this causes self-sabotage....

first of all raising your standards will help you get you over anxiety with woman just because you focus on something else...Lets say your preselection criteria is personality , and you believe this a 100 %, you will feel less anxiety or intimidation around hot woman ( because of social conditioning of course), because they are not in your RES ( focus). You tend to feel more nervous and fear if you see something of value....in the desert money doesn't mean shit- everyone is focussing on water.

You cannot drink money, so you don't care about it.

actually alot of people and so called gurus tell you to raise your standards, if you raise your standards you will increase your succes by 50 %. Because you will care less when you roam the club , you will be unstiffled....less rigid.. more flexible because your RES allow you to.

i think there is more to it...

everytime i give someone the advice to raise standards it doesn't work, well it works to a certain degree - more on a superficial level. but beneath the layers it doesn't work....

IF someone doesn't love himself, if he doesn't have much inner game or self respect/trust/confidence it's useless to raise your standards. You are raising standards higher than yourself, on a unconcious level you will still focus on woman , everyone who seems happier or more in state than you will put psychological pressure on you.

if you start out with game.. like most guys i meet they haven't any skill /experience and real life reference value regarding pickup. They haven't reached their goal yet, they aren't ''MPUA'' ( not that you have to). When you start out it kinda sucks because you have to be uncertain in order to learn - you have to open some doors in order to learn new information and experiences.

When you don't have much confidence or certainty it's f*cking stupid thing to raise standards. Some time ago i adopted some new productive beliefs , but in order to adopt those beliefs i had to let go of the old rigid ones. I had to be uncertain and unlearn some things in order to improve - even i felt kind of anxious because i have very high standards regarding woman and relationships ( too high actually ).

It's better if you look all all woman the same way...in the end we are all human .. we are all related. Talking to woman should feel like talking to one of your sister , it sounds stupid but i think this should be true....

having standards higher than your self-love can set you up... you must believe you deserve something just for you. so get out there.... god or whatever there is placed you on this world with millions of single woman, walk up to them like they are your family and relate. Same with other stuff....

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You have some insightful stuff to say, but your writing is scattered and hard to understand. You jump from point to point; it looks like you're basically writing your thoughts down as they come with little structure or purpose.

For example in this post, I can kind of see where you're going but you didn't clearly explain what you mean by "raising standards" which I'm guessing is the main point. Are you talking about raising the bar for yourself? Having higher standards as far as women go (that's what "raising your standards" usually means)? Or both?

If you're just posting for yourself, cool; but I for one find it difficult to understand what you're trying to say.

Edit: Just to make it clear, I'm not ripping on you. I just wish I could get more of what you wrote.

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i have trouble keeping things short without sacrificing knowledge ( in english)

yeah raising standard regarding woman ( what you want from woman and what you like woman to have .. traits etc).

raising the bar for others.

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It's not about keeping things short, it's about structure

Having said that, yes, having standards obviously helps your game because it's related to self-respect. Of course you can't just tell someone to have standards (have self-respect). That's not how it works.

But here's a cool exercise for building up your standards. Make a brief list of the kind of women you won't have anything to do with. e.g.

1) I will not date women who smoke.
2) I will not date women who have poor personal hygiene.
3) I won't date women who are disrespectful to me or others
4) etc

And continue making this list. As you go on and include new things, you will realize what your own standards are. You will figure out what you truly want and don't want, and that itself will give your "standards" a big boost. It also teaches you to think in terms of what you want and put yourself first. If you want someone to raise their standards, get them to do this exercise.

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+1

I agree with the OP here, good stuff.

Basically, raising standards for the sake of raising standards is just gonna give you an excuse to not open a set and give you less of a choice andincrease AA.

What people should do is develop their inner game so that their standards are raised automatically... But that is the same as self improvement and that is apparently scary.

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