| Before I go into the story, I thought I would preface it by saying that I don't have a deep knowledge of PUA secrets. I came to the community after a friend suggested I read The Game after I told him about how I hadn't had sex in 9 months. I read about half way through the book and decided to take the general principles and create a routine that would hopefully work for me.
I am a college student at one of the biggest party schools in the country, and after my acne cleared up and I lost a good amount of weight late in high school, I found that making out with girls at parties was very easy at a party school. What was not easy for me was getting passed that. The social awkwardness around girls that being fat with acne had created didn't go away when my unattractiveness did. So I came up with a routine that I tried for the first time this Halloween weekend, and it put an end to my sex slump.
(I was pretty drunk, so the details aren't perfect)
Early in the night didn't go so well for me. As I still am a complete beginner with no real openers, I mostly just attempted to go to any group that contained at least one cute girl, and someone I knew so I could have a reason to enter the group. After about an hour of failure, I noticed girls started to migrate outside where the DJ was playing music. Once a good amount of the girls had made their way to the dance floor, the guys soon followed suit. For those of you who are unaware what dancing in college is, it is essentially a dry hump orgy to music. It is also where the vast majority of my kiss closes occur, because it just seems to happen naturally with the sexuality of the dancing. I entered the fray and after a while of awkward solo dancing around some of my friends, I started to ask cute girls I saw to dance (I realize it is not the most subtle of approaches, but most good looking girls were on the dance floor at this point, where it was to loud to start up a conversation.) After dancing with a couple of girls, I decided to go inside and take a break when I got into a conversation with two cute girls, one blonde and one brunette. After a couple minutes of talking, I did something that I normally wouldn't do, which was to ask both of the girls if either of them would like to dance. It was a spur of the moment thing, but since both of the girls were about the same level of attractiveness and I couldn't chose which one I wanted, I decided why not ask both. I immediately regretted saying it, but to my suprise, the blonde giggled and encouraged her friend to dance with me (it also seemed to have the added effect of not showing the brunette my initial interest in her, because I didn't specifically chose to ask her to dance). The brunette seemed a bit reluctant, but eventually she took my hand and I led her to the dance floor. After around 5 minutes of dancing, she turned around and smiled at me, and leaned in to try to kiss me. I decided it was time to try my new routine. As she leaned in farther I stopped her and leaned away. She had a look of half sadness, and half disbelief. I told her that I didn't know anything about her yet, and then told her we should go to the back of the party and talk, at first she interrupted me and told me I didn't have to make an excuse to make her feel better about getting rejected, then when I was finally able to get my whole statement in over the loud music she looked confused, and skeptical but agreed to go find a seat away from the main part of the party and talk with me. I told her to tell me about herself and i listened. We talked for awhile, mostly her telling me about herself, with me chiming in mostly to gently tease her and be funny. After about 10 minutes, we finally made out, and for a while after we switched between talking, and making out when we didn't have anything to say. I mostly just tried to get her to tell me about herself, as I was trying to convey that I was slowly warming up to her, and that I was interested in her personality, not her looks. It helped that she actually was an interesting girl. Eventually she realized she had lost her friends, and I offered to walk her home. We walked holding hands for awhile before she asked me where I lived. She told me that I could walk with her until a certain point, but not too far as she didn't want me to have too long of a walk, as my house was in the opposite direction. I told her that I wanted to make sure she would get home safe. Once we reached her house, we made out on the couch for awhile, and when things started to escalate, I asked her if she wanted to move into her room so her roommates wouldn't walk in on us, and then I finally put my 9 month slump to an end.
And that's my story. I'd enjoy any comments anyone has on how to improve the routine, or things in general I could have done differently.
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