Whenever somebody says im cocky or that I have no friends I get down on myself. A little backround as to why this is.

Ive been put into uncomfortable situations with adults calling me cocky and telling me to change. I couldnt say anything back and was feeling inferior.

That hit me really hard and I started acting like a toolbag greeting everybody to avoid the pain of being called that again.

Second I get down on myself and beat myself over the head when somebody says I have no friends. I know I have a ton of friends but a year back from I had none. Something in my head for some reason says you dont but I know I do.

Any one been trhough anything similar and have any tips of overcoming these problems?

do u maybe act cocky to cover up some self esteem issues? ppl saying things to u bothers u likely cause what they say still matches your beliefs about yourself. it can happen when you've made big and positive changes and some of your belief system hasn't caught up yet.
if someone called u a 45 year old woman as an insult, you'd probably laugh, wouldn't ya? -cause it doesn't match your beliefs on ANY level-

keep on plowing and u will soon laugh about everything they say BECAUSE U KNOW BETTER.

read wayne dyer, marianne williamson books. these guys r new age but dynamite

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Ive been misunderstood. I realized ive acted rude when I was really anxious in social situations. That caught up to me something I like to call karma. And your 100% right about the self esteem part. I need to work on that belief system. Had really low self esteem as of last year. Now I know the backround behind my problem.

Thanks